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Friday, October 19, 2007

The Gift of Forgiving

Has someone hurt your feelings? If you keep going over and over what that person did to you, you may begin to feel anxious and depressed. The stress of being hurt can actually make you ill.

Maybe we need to let go, for hanging on to unforgiveness is just keeping the situation 'alive'. Like living in the past, you can't move forward. I don't think forgiving is 'forgetting', but it will help in letting go of hurt feelings, anger or pain felt.

If we recognize it is not about them and concentrate on you, we can then see that forgiving someone is a gift for our self. Don't wait for an apology. When we forgive, we aren't saying we forgive their actions or words, but forgive the person.

It's not easy to forgive someone and it will take time. Allow yourself that time and don't be so hard on yourself. Go through the stages and give yourself the gift of forgiving.

Did you ever hurt someone? Do you remember how you felt when that person forgave you?
Maybe you will never know why they hurt you, what the motivation behind their words or actions were. If we all try to expand our thought process and learn to see the shoe on the other foot, we will consider forgiving more easily.

According to wikipedia:
Forgiveness is the mental, and/or spiritual process of ceasing to feel resentment, indignation or anger against another person for a perceived offence, difference or mistake, or ceasing to demand punishment or restitution.
The power in forgiveness is to replace what has been lost or stolen and remove the fear of being injured again, to liberate from the slavery of resentment, bitterness, hatred, malice, fear, and a consumed life of distrust

3 comments:

Ajayprabhu said...

Thats nice post..But My most loveable story was and is Gift Of Magi By O.Henray.

AC Associates said...

Ajay, I'll have to check out your favorite read

Ajayprabhu said...

O.Henary was one of the most mystifying short story writer of last 100 years.His style of writing and his unexpecting end of stories was way ahead of their time.Must read "Complete works Of O.Heneary".

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