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Saturday, June 30, 2007

Men & Gift Giving

Has your husband, boyfriend or male friend, ever bought you a gift that was, ....let's say...not the perfect gift...?
Like the vacuum cleaner for your anniversary, or microwave oven on your birthday ? Unless you really wanted those types of gifts for special occasions, they brought about certain feelings...your hair stood up on the back of your neck while you just wanted to ripe "him" apart...how could he buy me something like that.

We know you men mean well and not to sound ungrateful, but I think women prefer something more personal, more meaningful or thought out... A gift she wouldn't necessarily have bought for herself. You know your lady best, Think about those kinds of little things she loves.

Maybe being men, they really don't know or understand why it upsets women when receiving these types of gifts on special occasions.

Is it because women like to shop more, spend time searching for the perfect gift or card for their man?

Can it be because men seem to overlook the subtle clues we drop when a special occasion is coming up.
You know what I mean...you say to him while at a friends party..wow, I really love that sweater so and so is wearing, I'd really like one for myself. He hears...nothing.
BUT, if a man mentioned that he wants this new remote he saw..we remember 2 months down the road and buy it for his birthday.

To the Women: Should we be a bit more direct in telling men what we want?

To the Men: Would you hear us ?

Wednesday, June 27, 2007

Don't Look Back

I hope you enjoy and appreciate this as much as I do....

As you travel through life there are always those times
When decisions just have to be made,
When the choices are hard, and solutions seem scarce,
And the rain seems to soak your parade.

There are some situations where all you can do
Is simply let go and move on,
Gather your courage and choose a direction
That carries you toward a new dawn.

So pack up your troubles and take a step forward ...
The process of change can be tough,
But think about all the excitement ahead
If YOU can be strong enough!

There might be adventures you never imagined
Just waiting around the next bend,
And wishes and dreams just about to come true
In ways you can't yet comprehend!

Perhaps you'll find friendships that spring from new things
As you challenge your status quo,
And learn there are so many options in life,
And so many ways you can grow!

Perhaps you'll go places you never expected
And see things that you've never seen,
Or travel to fabulous, faraway worlds
And wonderful spots in between!

Perhaps you'll find warmth and affection and caring
And somebody special who's there
To help you stay centered and listen with interest
To stories and feelings you share.

Perhaps you'll find comfort in knowing your friends
Are supportive of all that you do,
And believe that whatever decisions you make,
They'll be the right choices for you.

So keep putting one foot in front of the other,
And taking your life day by day ...
There's a brighter tomorrow that's just down the road ..
Don't look back! You're not going that way!
~Mary Engelbreit

Monday, June 25, 2007

It's A Male Thing....

Why is it when a male is looking for something, they look...and look...and they look, but still can not find what they're looking for?

9 out of 10 times the item is right in front of them....They yell from the next room...They swear the item is not there. It does not matter how old they are.

Does this sound familiar?

He says:
Where's my green shirt?

You yell back... it's hanging in the closet by the white shirt

No...it's not...

yes, it is...

I still can't find it....

You get up and head to his closet...your eyes could be closed and you'd find the shirt. You know the shirt is there.... as you reach in the closet and pull out the green shirt...

you say...here it is...right next to the white shirt!

And then there's the scenario at the refrig...

Do we have any more applesauce? He says

yes, top shelf...

I don't see it...we don't have any?

YES, it's on the top shelf...

no it's not...

oh, yes it is...top shelf

Can you help me find it?

You stop what you're doing, grumble a bit and go to the refrig...low and behold...applesauce top shelf!

This happens constantly...even at work, men seem to have trouble finding things. Women don't ask for help...they usually don't give up til they find what they're looking for, they move things around...

I'm not bashing men and most men will even agree with me that this happens in their home...

I have concluded this is just a 'male thing'

Can anyone share their theory on why men can't seem to find what they're looking for?

Sunday, June 24, 2007

Just alittle humor to make you smile....

Gotta love Maxine !

Saturday, June 23, 2007

Sign the Petition: Breast Cancer Patient Protection Act

Story from a nurse:
I'll never forget the look in my patients' eyes when I had to tell her
she had to go home with the drains, new exercises and no breasts. I
remember begging the Doctors to keep this women in the hospital longer, only to hear that they would, but their hands were tied by the insurance companies.
So there I sat with my patient giving her the instructions she needed to
take care of herself, knowing full well she didn't grasp half of what I
was saying, because the glazed, hopeless, frightened look spoke louder than the quiet 'Thank you' she muttered.

A mastectomy is when a woman's breast is removed in order to remove
cancerous breast cells/tissue. If you know anyone who has had a mastectomy,
you may know that there is a lot of discomfort and pain afterwards.
Insurance companies are trying to make mastectomies an outpatient
Let's give women the chance to recover properly in the hospital for 2 days after surgery.

Mastectomy Bill in Congress
It takes 2 seconds to do this and is very important! Please take the time
and do it really quick!

Breast Cancer Hospitalization Bill - Important legislation for all women.

There's a bill called the Breast Cancer Patient Protection Act which will require insurance companies to cover a minimum 48-hour hospital stay for
patients undergoing a mastectomy. It's about eliminating the drive-through mastectomy' where women are forced to go home just a few hours after surgery against the wishes of their doctor, still groggy from anesthesia and sometimes with drainage tubes still attached.

Lifetime Television has put this bill on their web page with a petition drive to show your support. Last year over half the House signed on.

PLEASE!! Sign the petition by clicking on the web site. You need not give
more than your name, email and zip code number.


This takes about 2 seconds.
On behalf of all women, THANK YOU.

Thursday, June 21, 2007

I've been Tagged !!

I have been tagged by Lyn at Remarkable Bloggers
Thanks Lyn...you are my first...tag that is!

Her other incredible blogs are:
lynda's loft
writing for the hell of it
heavenly inclinations
it's a woman's world
life line 101
the G(gentleman's)spot

It is the 8 Random Facts meme, and, goes as follows....I have to post these rules;
1: Each player starts with 8 random facts/habits about themselves which others do not know about them.
2: People who are tagged need to write in their own blog and post these rules.
3: At the end of your 8 random facts post, you must select 8 more people and leave a message at their site that they have been tagged....

Ok, here goes: 8 random facts about me, Andrea
1. I used to work in the music industry: 6 yrs in security, then 5 yrs with a promoter
2. I am friends with a few major celebrities
3. I am afraid of heights
4. I have one son who is 29 1/2 yrs old
5. I'm like a sponge...reading everything, thirsty for knowledge
6. My baby is actually my 3 yr old, 120 lb black lab/shepherd
7. My nicknames are: Sunshine, Ang, Polly and Trouble
8. My 'calming' place is the beach

Well, there you have some facts about me...I choose the following people to be tagged:

Cris Zimermann virtual entrepreneur

Bo bowrag's blog

Sindy and to think

Debojit Chowdhury Free Life Coaching Course

Robert Revellian

Dorid the radula

Mike New2Blog.com

Halil peopleized

Wednesday, June 20, 2007

Pet Peeve

I guess we all have a pet peeve. Something that bothers, annoys or aggravates us...It's usually something actually minor and not catastrophic, but even so...still annoying.

This may sound silly or illogical to some, but I have a pet peeve with "labels".... being on fruits and vegetables
It has now grown to include products as well.

It happened again...not once, but three times in one day...after doing my food shopping, I return home, put most things away.
I now have to battle the removal of labels from certain items I purchased. Very frustrating...

So tell me...why do you think it is necessary to have a label on fruits, vegetables and products? You know the kind I'm talking about...the label that refuses to come off. By the time you remove that tiny label off any fruit--you have either bruised it, poked your fingernail through it or took a piece out of it...great...

Now I need to remove a large circular label that is smack in the middle of the "non-stick" frying pan. Of course it wasn't a label that can be easily removed --the type that has the rubberized glue on the back. No, it has to be the label that comes off in pieces and leaves glue resin. Any scratches to this non-stick pan will cause damage, right? so...how do I remove it? I soak the pan. After what seems like an hour, using a wooden spoon I scrapped and scrapped til the label is gone.

Next project.... the organizer I bought has a label... top center...I have to try to get that off without scratching the material and still have the organizer look new. Of course I can't soak this label, so I peel and peel...tiny pieces at a time, rubbing the remaining label and any glue off till my hand hurts.

Eventually the projects are done....
Does anyone have any suggestions on how to remove these labels? This peeve is something I'd love to be without...

Sunday, June 17, 2007

Father's Day

I hope everyone had a nice day and enjoyed your loved ones.

For me, Father's Day is a bittersweet kind of day. Since my father's passing 6 years ago, there hasn't been a day that goes by that I don't think of him....something or someone reminds me of him...or I realize something I have learned from him or because of him.

So today with the weather so warm and full of sunshine, I chose not to feel sad or let negative feelings stop me from enjoying the day. Instead I thought of all the happy memories I have of my Dad, the times we laughed or cried and the lessons learned.

While I was brushing my dog this afternnon, I thought of the times Dad and I spent with our family dog years ago. How he taught me to train her, the proper way to care for her and how to respect animals. I guess that's why I am such an animal person and why I chose to work with animals many years back. hmm....

Today and everyday, create memories with your family...spend quality time...share something special that will leave a lasting memory.
Take pictures, record the happy times and leave a 'verbal' message on tape for your children.

Hearing my father's voice taped as he was singing brings him closer to me. I have listened to that tape so many times. It's like a gift...Allows me not to forget his voice...and how so many times as a kid we danced...my feet on his feet...he spun me around...

For My Dad...

Friday, June 15, 2007


Someone will always be prettier.
Some will always be smarter.
Some of their houses will be bigger.
Some will drive a better car.
Their children will do better in school.
And their husband will fix more things around the house.

So let it go,
and love you and your circumstances.

Think about it!

The prettiest woman in the world can have hell in her heart.
And the most highly favored
woman at your job may be unable to have children.
And the richest woman you know,
she's got the car, the house, the clothes~~~~
might be lonely.
And the word says, 'If I have not Loved, I am nothing.'

So, again, love you.
Love who you are.
Look in the mirror in the morning and smile and say,
'I am too blessed to be stressed and too anointed, to be disappointed!'

'Winners make things happen~~Losers let things happen.'

Be 'blessed' ladies~~~~~

'To the world you might be one person, but to one person you might be the world'

Wednesday, June 13, 2007

Praying Rocks?

I wanted to give you something really amazing to look at.

Tilt your head to the left to see the picture.You will be amazed at what you see.

Look at the entire length of the picture.....

Monday, June 11, 2007

The Wooden Bowl

I received this story in an email today and wanted to share it with you. I guarantee this will touch you and will remember the tale of The Wooden Bowl tomorrow, a week from now, a month from now, a year from now.

A frail old man went to live with his son, daughter-in-law, and four-year old grandson. The old man's hands trembled, his eyesight was blurred, and his step faltered. The family ate together at the table.

But the grandfather's shaky hands and failing sight made eating difficult. Peas rolled off his spoon onto the floor. When he grasped the glass, milk spilled on the tablecloth.

The son and daughter-in-law became irritated with the mess. "We must do something about father," said the son. "I've had enough of his spilled milk, noisy eating, and food on the floor."

So the husband and wife set a small table in the corner. There, Grandfather ate alone while the rest of the family enjoyed dinner. Since Grandfather had broken a dish or two, his food was served in a wooden bowl!

When the family glanced in Grandfather's direction, sometime he had a tear in his eye as he sat alone. Still, the only words the couple had for him were sharp admonitions when he dropped a fork or spilled food.

The four-year-old watched it all in silence. One evening before supper, the father noticed his son playing with wood scraps on the floor. He asked the child sweetly, "What are you making?" Just as sweetly, the boy responded, "Oh, I am making a little bowl for you and Mama to eat your food in when I grow up." The four-year-old smiled and went back to work. The words so struck the parents so that they were speechless.

Then tears started to stream down their cheeks. Though no word was spoken, both knew what must be done. That evening the husband took Grandfather's hand and gently led him back to the family table. For the remainder of his days he ate every meal with the family. And for some reason, neither husband nor wife seemed to care any longer when a fork was dropped, milk spilled, or the tablecloth soiled.

On a positive note, I've learned that, no matter what happens, how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow.

I've learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he/she handles four
things: a rainy day, the elderly, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights.

I've learned that, regardless of your relationship with your parents, you'll miss them when they're gone from your life.

I've learned that making a "living" is not the same thing as making a "life.."

I've learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance. I've learned that you shouldn't go through life with a catcher's mitt on both hands. You need to be able to throw something back.

I've learned that if you pursue happiness, it will elude you. But if you focus on your family, your friends, the needs of others, your work and doing the very best you can, happiness will find you.

I've learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision.

I've learned that even when I have pains, I don't have to be one.

I've learned that every day, you should reach out and touch someone.

People love that human touch -- holding hands, a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back.

I've learned that I still have a lot to learn.!

Saturday, June 9, 2007

The 5 Deadly LIES

According to Raphael Calzadilla, BA,CPT,ACE, an ediets Chief Fitness Pro, fitness-equipment manufacturers, diet books and supplement companies have one thing in common.
Guess what that is?
PROFITS! Sure, profits are nice, But, at the expense of people who are truly searching for a way to get fit, and healthy, it's not so great.

After you read his article, it will lay to rest some of the myths you've heard and maybe what you thought were the best way to receive results. I know you'll be more inspired and confident. I learned that Consistency and level of effort is the key, not the number of days I exercise, which made me feel less guilty about my 2-3 days of work outs.

READ.... THE 5 DEADLY LIES Click here

A drug-free competitive bodybuilder and 2005 winner of the prestigious WNBF (World Natural Bodybuilding Federation) Pro Card, Raphael Calzadilla is a veteran of the health-and-fitness industry. He specializes in a holistic approach to body transformation, nutrition programs and personal training. He earned his B.A. in communications from Southern Connecticut State University and is certified as a personal trainer with ACE and APEX. In addition, he successfully completed the RTS1 program based on biomechanics.

Thursday, June 7, 2007

Pay It Forward

Have you ever watched the TV Show "FRIENDS"?
I used to watch faithfully... I'll admit some friends and I still use several quotes or references from episodes to compare with what's going on in our own lives.
Haven't you?

I remember one show that had Joey challenging Phoebe to do a complete selfless act of kindness without getting something in return. Think about that...

Doing something for someone and not expecting or getting anything in return? Simply showing kindness because you really wanted to.

This is a simple but powerful way to use your life and connect with others—start a "Kindness Chain." Performing acts of kindness is one of the best and quickest ways to improve your life. All you have to do to start your own Kindness Chain is do something nice for someone else…that's it! Encourage them to "pass it on" so the chain isn't broken.

Pay it forward

Tuesday, June 5, 2007

10 Steps To Achieving Your Goals

By Zig Ziglar

1. Make the commitment to reach your goal. "One person with a commitment is worth a hundred who only have an interest." Mary Crowley.

2. Commit yourself to detailed accountability. Record your progress toward your goals every night, and list the six most important things you need to do the next day. Daily discipline is the key to reaching your goals.

3. Build your life on a sold foundation of honesty, character, integrity, trust, love, and loyalty. This foundation will give you an honest shot at reaching any goal you have set properly.

4. Break your intermediate and long-range goals into increments.

5. Be prepared to change. You can't control the weather, inflation, interest rates, Wall Street, etc. Change your decision to move toward a goal carefully--but be willing to change your direction to get there as conditions and circumstances demand.

6. Share your "give-up" goals (i.e., give up smoking, being rude, procrastinating, being late, eating too much, etc.) with many people. Chances are excellent they're going to encourage you.

7. Become a team player. Remember: You can have everything in life you want if you will just help enough other people get what they want.

8. See the reaching. In your imagination see yourself receiving that diploma, getting that job or promotion, making that speech, moving into the home of your dreams, achieving that weight-loss goal, etc.

9. Each time you reach a goal your confidence will grow so that you can do bigger and better things. After accomplishing any goal, record it in your journal, Weekly Planner or Palm Pilot.

10. Remember, what you get by reaching your destination isn't nearly as important as what you become by reaching your goals --what you will become is the winner you were born to be!

Sunday, June 3, 2007

WHAT DEFINES US? A Valuable Lesson of LIFE!

The extraordinary human spirit can overcome virtually anything if we CHOOSE to make a difference. Ordinary people can do extraordinary things....even though adversity....if we CHOOSE to make a difference.

The following is a TRUE STORY, and it defines all of us....from the able to the disabled, from the weak to the strong, from the gifted to the Everyman.....lessons can be learned through the smallest of small and the largest of large. I would LOVE to read YOUR BLOG COMMENTS about YOUR feelings towards this.

On Nov. 18, 1995, Itzhak Perlman, the violinist, came on stage to give a concert at Avery Fisher Hall at Lincoln Center in New York City.

If you have ever been to a Perlman concert, you know that getting on stage is no small achievement for him. He was stricken with polio as a child, and so he has braces on both legs and walks with the aid of two crutches.

To see him walk across the stage one step at a time, painfully and slowly, is an awesome sight. He walks painfully, yet majestically, until he reaches his chair.

Then he sits down, slowly, puts his crutches on the floor, undoes the clasps on his legs, tucks one foot back and extends the other foot forward. Then he bends down and picks up the violin, puts it under his chin, nods to the conductor and proceeds to play.

By now, the audience is used to this ritual. They sit quietly while he makes his way across the stage to his chair.

They remain reverently silent while he undoes the clasps on his legs. They wait until he is ready to play.

But this time, something went wrong.

Just as he finished the first few bars, one of the strings on his violin broke. You could hear it snap - it went off like gunfire across the room. There was no mistaking what that sound meant. There was no mistaking what he had to do.

We figured that he would have to get up, put on the clasps again, pick up the crutches and limp his way off stage - to either find another violin or else find another string for this one.

But he didn't. Instead, he waited a moment, closed his eyes and then signaled the conductor to begin again.

The orchestra began, and he played from where he had left off. And he played with such passion and such power and such purity as they had never heard before.

Of course, anyone knows that it is impossible to play a symphonic work with just three strings.

I know that, and you know that, but that night Itzhak Perlman refused to know that.

You could see him modulating, changing, re-composing the piece in his head. At one point, it sounded like he was de-tuning the strings to get new sounds from them that they had never made before.

When he finished, there was an awesome silence in the room. And then people rose and cheered. There was an extraordinary outburst of applause from every corner of the auditorium. We were all on our feet, screaming and cheering, doing everything we could to show how much we appreciated what he had done.

He smiled, wiped the sweat from this brow, raised his bow to quiet us,and then he said - not boastfully, but in a quiet, pensive, reverent tone...

"You know, sometimes it is the artist's task to find out how much music you can still make with what you have left."

What a powerful line that is.

It has stayed in my mind ever since I heard it. And who knows?

Perhaps that is the definition of life - not just for artists but for all of us.

Here is a man who has prepared all his life to make music on a violin of four strings, who, all of a sudden, in the middle of a concert, finds himself with only three strings; so he makes music with three strings, and the music he made that night with just three strings was more beautiful, more sacred, more memorable, than any that he had ever made before, when he had four strings.

So, perhaps our task in this shaky, fast-changing, bewildering world in which we live is to make music, at first with all that we have, and then, when that is no longer possible, to make music with what we have left.

We Will Make A Difference


Saturday, June 2, 2007

It Can Happen to You....

I have a pretty big family...aunts/uncles, cousins and then more cousins. The younger family members are now getting older, marrying and having kids of their own.

Being at a wedding last night, our family had a chance to be all together, share memories, catch up with the goings on in our lives. We mostly heard good and happy things, but one young, college aged cousin shared something that was scary and upsetting. Although there is a happy ending, I wanted to remind people of the importance of seeking medical attention when you notice any suspicious skin markings and/or any changes in the way your skin looks.

This "bump"on my cousin's back turned out to be cancer. Two surgeries later, he is clear, but will constantly need to have x-rays of his lungs to make sure.

Treatment is more likely to work well when cancer is found early. If not treated, some types of skin cancer cells can spread to other tissues and organs.

Many teens have a feeling of immortality, as do adults...that bad things only happen to other people. Skin cancer is the most common type of cancer in this country. About one million Americans develop skin cancer each year.

Better Safe, than Sorry....Do a self Exam
The best time to do a self exam is after a shower or bath. You should check your skin in a room with plenty of light. You should use a full-length mirror and a hand-held mirror. It's best to begin by learning where your birthmarks, moles, and other marks are and their usual look and feel. By checking your skin regularly, you will learn what is normal for you.

Check for anything new:
New mole (that looks different from your other moles)
New red or darker color flaky patch that may be a little raised
New flesh-colored firm bump
Change in the size, shape, color, or feel of a mole
Sore that does not heal
Check yourself from head to toe.


Skin cancer has a better prognosis, or outcome, than most other types of cancer. Still, learning you have any type of cancer can be upsetting. Information Specialists at 1-800-4-CANCER and at LiveHelp (http://cis.nci.nih.gov/) can help you locate programs, services, and publications.

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