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Wednesday, October 31, 2007

What's In a Name?

Today I had a good chuckle. While reading a letter I received in the mail, I looked at the signature and laughed out loud. His last name was Rabbitt...Have any idea what his parents named him? JACK....no, really. His name was Jack Rabbitt ! Why didn't they just name him Peter? Peter Rabbitt....I think that sounds just as good. Can you imagine growing up in school with the name....Jack Rabbitt....?!

I am amazed at some of the names parents give their children. What possess them to have a child grow up with a bizarre, weird, strange or rhyming name? Are they thinking of the babies that will grow up to be adults?

An acquaintance of mine, David, named his son 'Harley" Do you know why? He wanted people to say....This is Harley...David's...son...get it? Harley Davidson... oh my...

Parents put so much time and effort in choosing the perfect name for their child. As parents, we want to do the best for our children. Are we trying to predetermine their personality or success?
Do parents seek to have their child be unique? A name might remind you of someone well known....If I wrote Brittany or Paris, what comes to mind? I'm thinking there may be less babies born with those names these days.

Here's a short list from Wikipedia of same strange names that I found rather humorous:

Armand Hammer, famous industrialist.

Harley Quinn Smith, daughter of filmmaker Kevin Smith,

Coco Crisp, Major League Baseball center fielder for the Boston Red Sox.

Loser Lane - a New York Police Department sergeant

Dick Assman (properly pronounced "assmun"). Canadian service station owner whose name propelled him to international celebrity status in 1995.

Ima Hogg, Daughter of Governor of Texas James Stephen Hogg.

Shanda Lear, daughter of Bill Lear, founder of Lear Jet Corporation.


Do you know anyone with a bizarre or strange name?

Tuesday, October 30, 2007

Life is Short

Life is short. Life and it all it contains should be precious to each one of us. We shouldn't overlook the little things. Family, friends and even people that cross our paths for a short time, shouldn't be taken for granted.
Make sure you tell them you care. If you aren't able to express yourself with words, do so with actions...a hug, a peck on the cheek, a visit or telephone call.

I sat down in front of this computer not really knowing what I wanted to write. All I know is that I needed the therapy I get from writing...writing something...anything...just keep my mind busy with words.

I didn't want to bring more sad news about my family and/or friends to my readers, but it is part of me, my life and in life in general. This morning I learned two more of my friends have passed and then two hours after that, my cousin called to tell me his father, my uncle, passed away. In 6 days, 4 angels have been called home. How very emotionally draining for everyone...

I'm sure you have read or heard this inspirational quote..."Don't put off 'til tomorrow what you can do today, for tomorrow may be too late"

In this world of materialism, I believe gifts of our time shared with who we care about is a much better choice. That phone call we might make, the visit to our family, even when we get stressed out while visiting. Taking the 'time' to connect with someone we care about. We live in a rush rush world, where there isn't enough time to do everything, but we should find the time.

A friend just recently was saying how he hasn't visited his father and he knew he should. He let a few days pass and then went to see him. I could hear in his voice how glad he was that he took the time. Even though his father isn't one for conversation, the fact that they were sharing the same space was enough. I am positive his father, in his quiet ways, enjoyed and appreciated the time spent with his son.

Why do we procrastinate over the simple things that would connect us to family and friends? Is it stress, feelings of guilt or just in thinking we have tomorrow ?

Sunday, October 28, 2007

I'm Loving Myself

Letter S SMALL pic


Many posts on this blog refer to females and how wonderful it is to be a woman.

I have mentioned self-esteem, the many ways we, as women are successful in both our personal and/or business life. I have spoken about our strength, our confidence, how we should and can stand on our own two feet by being educated, plus an array of other topics.

I just stumbled upon a site that promotes woman. Females can now make an expressive statement about who you love... "I'm Loving Myself" ... isn't that a wonderful statement? I love it!

Well, now you can make a statement by wearing your expression of loving yourself. Are you a successful business woman, recently graduated school, or simply loving yourself for who you are or goals you have accomplished?

Wear your own tee designed by Doheny Designs. This is a great way to remind yourself each time you put this shirt on.

More woman should love themselves.For the goals we accomplish, for the way we care and nurture others. I'm Loving myself is a great thing to tell yourself each and every day. Be accepting of who we are. No one is perfect and we all need to accept ourselves, flaws and all.

Show it to the world for all to see...Feel the pride of being a woman and all that we have to offer.

My friend who had second thoughts about going back to school, recently graduated and I now know exactly what I'm getting her for Christmas. A "I'm loving myself" tee especially for her because she should be so proud of herself and loving herself for her achievment.


Brought to you by Doheny Designs

Bitter Sweet Moment

Something happened to me today that has touched me greatly. I found that one person can touch another person's life in many ways and you may never know. I found one person can love you and you may never know...unless of course one day it comes out in the open.

I was dreading today as I needed to attend the wake of a friend I have known for over 30 years. Of course, we kept in touch on and off through the years, as he married, and then moved to Florida. He frequently returned after his divorce to visit with family and friends and it was those times that we would catch up.

My circle of high school friends have a strong bond, which gets confirmed at each happy or sad event in our lives. We all grew up together, some since kindergarten and shared the many, many ups and downs of life. Most of us still live in or around the same town we grew up in. When we get together, memories of our childhood are always present as are tears from the laughter we share speaking about our past or from the sadness of loosing someone we love.

On Thursday, I received a call from my friends sister telling me the sad news. I have never met his family, but since my number was in his cell phone, she felt I was important enough to receive a personal phone call.

Today, arm and arm with another friend, we took a deep breath as we headed into the funeral parlor. Through blurred eyes, I Looked in. I first saw another friend and we went directly over to him. As we hugged each other so tight, I felt a tap on my shoulder.

As I turned around, a woman said to me..."you must be Andrea"...yes..."I am 'his' sister and I was the one who called you the other day"...I hugged her, expressed my sorrow and thanked her for calling me.

Because I was so emotional, it didn't occur to me at that moment how she knew who I was.

Later while speaking with another friend, we reminisced and I mentioned that our friend (who just passed) and I had been speaking lately. The last time we spoke was a couple months ago. He already knew that. I must have had a surprised look on my face and he added..."HE really cared about you and brought you up quite often" and he spoke of me to his family... that's how his sister knew who I was.

I was stunned that I had touched him in ways I never knew. Such a bitter sweet moment for me. My head reeled from the thoughts flooding my brain.
I wish I knew...

I remember getting this email that contained a list of things 'somebody' might be doing right now. I remember reading it and thinking...ok, it can be true. Well, I found that email and want to share it with you. Today proved the writings of this poem can really be true.

Right Now
-somebody is thinking of you.

-somebody is caring about you.

-somebody misses you

-somebody wants to talk to you.

-somebody wants to be with you.

-somebody hopes you aren't in trouble.

-somebody is thankful for the support you have provided.

-somebody wants to hold your hand.

-somebody hopes everything turns out all right.

-somebody wants you to be happy.

-somebody wants you to find him/her.

-somebody is celebrating your successes.

-somebody wants to give you a gift.

-somebody thinks that you ARE a gift.

-somebody loves you.

-somebody admires your strength.

-somebody is thinking of you and smiling.

-somebody wants to be your shoulder to cry on.

- Unknown


Another angel has been called home...miss you already...

Saturday, October 27, 2007

Men (opause)

This came to me by way of an email. I actually laughed out loud when I read it. Can you relate?!


How many women with MENOPAUSE does it take to change a light bulb?

Woman's Answer:

One! ONLY ONE!!!! And do you know WHY? Because no
one else in this house knows HOW to change a light bulb! They don't even know
that the bulb is BURNED OUT!!

They would sit in the dark for THREE DAYS before they figured it out. And, once they figured it out, they wouldn't be able to find the #&%!* light bulbs, despite the fact that they've been in the SAME CABINET for the past 17 YEARS!

But if they did, by some miracle of God, actually find them, 2 DAYS LATER, the chair they dragged to stand on to change the STUPID light bulb would STILL BE IN THE SAME SPOT!!!!!

AND UNDERNEATH IT WOULD BE THE WRAPPER THE FREAKING LIGHT BULBS CAME IN!!! BECAUSE NO ONE EVER PICKS UP OR CARRIES OUT THE GARBAGE!!!! IT'S A WONDER WE HAVEN'T ALL SUFFOCATED FROM THE PILES OF GARBAGE THAT ARE A FOOT DEEP THROUGHOUT THE ENTIRE HOUSE!! IT WOULD TAKE AN ARMY TO
CLEAN THIS PLACE! AND DON'T EVEN GET ME STARTED ON WHO CHANGES THE TOILET PAPER ROLL !!

I'm sorry. What was the question?


Thursday, October 25, 2007

A New Found Perspective

I recently attended a psychic party.

How many of you believe in the ability to perceive things hidden from traditional senses through means of extra-sensory perception ?

I have been to a couple psychics and mediums over the years and never came away from a meeting with doubt. I am a believer and have had certain experiences that confirms why I believe.

At this party there were 11 of us, all waiting for our turn with 'her'. 9 of us agreed she was right on the mark, while the other 2 were skeptical.

I have to say what she told me was true in regards to the past and the present she spoke of. The future, well, we'll just have to wait and see. I left the party full of thought that continues as I write this post. I have learned a few things about myself as I analyzed what was said. She brought about a new perspective when she spoke about my Dad and a man I have feelings for.

It's amazing how I came to learn about myself through this experience. How it took a stranger to shed light on some things about myself. And, to be honest, one thing she mentioned wasn't exactly positive, but she was right. Like a light bulb went on about certain aspects of my life, my behavior and reactions. Why hadn't I just figured this out before?

I am certain that people cross our paths for a reason. If we are open to experiences, we can learn a great deal from them. Maybe the lesson is not immediately known, but later on, we can look back and say....ah...now I see.

I have looked back into my childhood and only now realize why I do certain things, or why I think a certain way. Our upbringing, our family, friends, romantic interests, partners and everything we have experienced up to this point...play a role in the person we are and become.

We, as people are complicated creatures. We have so many moods, feelings, attitudes, perceptions. Have you ever just sat back and really...REALLY thought about life? It's amazing...It brings about so many questions for me. Slowly I am getting some answers...and, continue to learn about myself.

If anyone has had an 'experience' with the other side or have been to a psychic/medium, I would love to hear your story...

Tuesday, October 23, 2007

Attitude is Everything

There once was a woman who woke up one morning, looked in the mirror and noticed she had only three hairs on her head.

Well," she said, "I think I'll braid my hair today?"
So she did and she had a wonderful day.

The next day she woke up, looked in the mirror and saw that she had only two hairs on her head.

"H-M-M," she said, "I think I'll part my hair down the middle today?"
So she did and she had a grand day.

The next day she woke up, looked in the mirror and noticed that she had only one hair on her head.

"Well," she said, "today I'm going to wear my hair in a pony tail."
So she did and she had a fun, fun day.

The next day she woke up, looked in the mirror and noticed that there wasn't a single hair on her head.

"YEA!" she exclaimed, "I don't have to fix my hair today!"
Attitude is everything.

Be kinder than necessary,for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle.

Live simply,
Love generously,
Care deeply,
Speak kindly......
Leave the rest to God
Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass...
It's about learning to dance in the rain.



Sunday, October 21, 2007

Kitchen Oil Fire Safety Tip

This video brings awareness about an important safety issue that everyone should know about.

I believe the first reaction of most people when seeing a fire is to throw water on it. In some cases, yes...that will stop the fire, but when kitchen 'oil' is involved, do NOT use water.

As the saying goes....water and oil do not mix. Remember that if while cooking, a fire erupts when frying with oil. The oil may overflow the pan or splatter, causing it to ignite. The thing to do: Smother the fire.

Please watch this video. I am sure after watching this, you will remember it and keep it stored in the back of your mind.

Saturday, October 20, 2007

Your Digestive Health IS Important

Do you suffer from IBS or any other digestive issue? Living with someone (my son) who suffers from Crohn's disease, I see first hand the discomfort, pain and other problems that can arise from digestive problems.

When my son is experiencing a flare up, he takes an acidophilus pill(along with a quick change in diet-see tip below),which contains a probiotic blend. These are cultures that helps better digestion and also can be found in yogurt. He can't seem to bring himself to eat yogart, so this pill is like getting the benefits of yogart without actually eating it. It really does help and he can even eat dairy when taking this product. That is huge!
Probiotics are a good kind of natural bacteria. They give your system the friendly active cultures it likes.
Prebiotics are the natural dietary fiber that helps keep those beneficial cultures happy.
The two work together to help crowd out unfriendly bacteria in your system.

I try to do my best in caring for my own digestive health. As I am getting older, my body is certainly changing. What I once could eat, now affects my stomach. You may know what I mean.

I just came across this video which explains how you can care for your own digestive health. Take a look. It may be something you want to try and see if you see a difference in the way you feel.



*TIP: I've done ALOT of research on crohn's and diet. I found that using a crock pot for cooking helps immediately. Cooking foods the traditional way doesn't break down the molecules enough for your digestive system to handle. That's why we experience bloat, cramps and diarrhea. When cooking in the crock pot for up to 9 hours, you are breaking down the molecules, so your body digests the food so much easier. That's why when cooking a roast or chicken etc, the food literally breaks apart. Think about this and you will see it is simple. Cooking meat for only about an hour (give or take) doesn't allow for the chemicals and molecules to break down. The crock pot enables this process and it really is a much healthier way to eat.

Save When Shopping Online

I recently posted about shopping online and using online coupons. Below is one comment received:

From anonymous boxer~
Hello.... I'm here from Beth's "community". I am a huge online shopper and take pride in how much I can get done with a few clicks of the mouse. I DIDN'T know of these online coupons.

Well, with the holidays approaching, I thought I'd write another post letting you in on a site that will save you money using online coupons.

In my town here in New Jersey, you can't even go into a store without already seeing Christmas decorations or related items for sale. It's not even Halloween yet! I must admit that I've already started my shopping (I'm almost done) and saved myself some money (and time) using these coupons.

At couponchief.com you will find up to date coupon codes and all the resources necessary to save yourself money and time. Just think how you won't be standing in long lines, surrounded by cranky shoppers. This will allow you to do what you want, when everyone else is sitting in traffic and spending hours looking for the best deal or sale to save money.

There are literally hundreds of stores at couponchief to choose from. Are you looking for electronics? Try Best Buy. Their coupons range from 5-20% off to $50 off selected digital cameras. If you're looking for a variety of items and one stop shopping, I always shop at Target. I can get anything from books, pet supplies,clothes, CD/DVD's, linens, toys, food or bath and beauty products. The coupons they offer range from offers of up to 15% off to $5 off a purchase of $50 or even free shipping.

Happy Shopping!

Friday, October 19, 2007

Receiving More Awards...

At Speedcat Hollydale's Page....I found a record breaking event for he gave an award to each of his community members at mybloglog.

Such an act of kindness! Thank you so much for including me.
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I also received an award from Skipper who authors my life starts at forty-two. I enjoy her blog so much and love how real, open and honest she is.
This award is to celebrate people who reach out and make the blogger community a better one. I love this award and I thank you so much for including me.

Such an honor to be part of these two commuities. I look forward eachday when I return from working, to relax and read posts that I can loose myself in. Such a feeling to know that at a moments notice, I can turn to any one of my community friends and reach out if I so choose and they will be there.

What my community means to me:
...lends a hand in times of need
...puts others' needs before their own
...makes a positive impact on the community
...brings warmth to everyday
...takes the time to listen
...creates energetic spirit
...rallies around a cause
...reaches out to make a difference
...acting with your heart
I would like to give both these awards to the my community friends:
feel happy
jackal
Wonderland or Not
Your Wisdom of Total Happiness
My Life is Murphys Law
Revellian.com
A Week in the Life of a Redhead
Jeanine's Bits and Pieces
NAFASG-United and Dedicated Behind You
The Painted Veil
visionwiz
Mariuca
A worn out woman's journey
Outta the Coop: A day in the life of The Chick
Heavenly Inclinations
The Spirit Knows
Feeling Flirty



The Gift of Forgiving

Has someone hurt your feelings? If you keep going over and over what that person did to you, you may begin to feel anxious and depressed. The stress of being hurt can actually make you ill.

Maybe we need to let go, for hanging on to unforgiveness is just keeping the situation 'alive'. Like living in the past, you can't move forward. I don't think forgiving is 'forgetting', but it will help in letting go of hurt feelings, anger or pain felt.

If we recognize it is not about them and concentrate on you, we can then see that forgiving someone is a gift for our self. Don't wait for an apology. When we forgive, we aren't saying we forgive their actions or words, but forgive the person.

It's not easy to forgive someone and it will take time. Allow yourself that time and don't be so hard on yourself. Go through the stages and give yourself the gift of forgiving.

Did you ever hurt someone? Do you remember how you felt when that person forgave you?
Maybe you will never know why they hurt you, what the motivation behind their words or actions were. If we all try to expand our thought process and learn to see the shoe on the other foot, we will consider forgiving more easily.

According to wikipedia:
Forgiveness is the mental, and/or spiritual process of ceasing to feel resentment, indignation or anger against another person for a perceived offence, difference or mistake, or ceasing to demand punishment or restitution.
The power in forgiveness is to replace what has been lost or stolen and remove the fear of being injured again, to liberate from the slavery of resentment, bitterness, hatred, malice, fear, and a consumed life of distrust

Wednesday, October 17, 2007

Food for Thought

There aren't many foods I don't like, but I am not a fan of mushrooms. If they are hidden within a sauce, I can manage eating them, but otherwise, I'd rather not.

BUT, I know that researchers have said that mushrooms are a source for powerful new health products.

In Asia, they use the mushroom to fight disease. They have been used against cancers of the stomach, esophagus and lungs. Medical research shows mushrooms help with tumors and heart disease by lowering bad cholesterol. Also, I read that they help the immune system and can prevent the common cold, flu and some infections.

A physician in a northern California clinical practice, Dr. Isaac Eliaz is using mushrooms to help build his patients' immunity. He uses MycoPhyto Plus Complex which contains six medicinal mushrooms grown on immune-enhancing herbs.

The experts say there are over 140,000 types of mushrooms on Earth, but only 10 percent are studied and known.

Well, I guess I may try pizza with mushrooms or Chicken Marsala to reap the benefits of mushrooms.

Here's a great recipe from Rachel Ray:
Chicken Marvalasala and Papardelle with Rosemary Gravy Serves 4

This meal lives up to it's name – it's simply marvelous (and it tastes like it must have come from a fancy restaurant)! Rachel Ray

Monday, October 15, 2007

Do You Buy Online?

I love to shop and when I find a coupon that saves me money, I am even more thrilled. I have been doing a lot of buying online since there doesn't seem to be enough hours in the day to physically go to the store.

My son's birthday is coming up and I found a site that offers Coupon Codes to a large number of stores.
I was surprised to see that the coupons offered were to many stores I am already familiar with. The site is updated daily, so I know I am getting the most current offers.

I wanted to shop for some fleece and thermals for the cold months coming up. He works outside, so he'll appreciate these. At Kohl's, I found everything I was looking for and the coupons offered varied from 10 to 15% off to saving if you use your Kohl's charge or free shipping on every item in the men's wardrobe catalog.

I feel good knowing I saved money and it only took about 10 minutes of my time to do it. Now I only have to wait for the package to arrive, wrap the gifts and I'm done. Can't get any easier then that.

Sunday, October 14, 2007

You Learn Something New Everyday

Well as the saying goes..."you learn something new everyday".

Something came to light that I didn't even give thought to. Something that I now feel embarrassed about.

While reading a post from Bobby which explained that Powerful Content Is In The Eye Of The Beholder and gave ways to have a "... high standard of integrity and ethical coolness...", a couple thoughts and questions came to mind with regard to one of his suggestions.

An excerpt from his post:
Read your reader’s blogs and sites. If I read a blog and the author never ever comes to read mine, I am much more likely to stop reading theirs. We are all guilty of that. No one can read every blog. You should really make an effort to read your top commentators blogs regularly.

Well, Bobby spends about 2-3 hours each day reading and commenting on blogs. I on the other hand, really do not have that kind of time. With working full time, tending to my business, working on my own two blogs, plus the household chores and my personal life, I just don't have the hours for much else.

I have subscribed to most of my favorite blogs and/or included these blogs in my favorites at Technorati. Doing this, I can keep up on the posts and read daily. It was brought to my attention that although I read through these posts, the authors may not know I am actually interested and know that I am reading their posts.
Because I do not actually 'visit' each blog, I think I have left an unfavorable impression.

I wanted to apologize if I have indeed caused the authors to feel this way. I never gave this thought before and didn't realize I might be coming across this way. Believe me, this was so unintentional. I was trying to get my full of the many blogs I read, the easiest way I knew. I didn't subscribe to any one's blogs or add to favorites to help in their rankings, I truly was interested in their blogs.

I guess I am still a bit naive to the blogging world and ethical coolness (as Bobby puts it).

The many blogs I have found are not only wonderful, but food for thought, filled with humor and inspiration and the people behind the blogs are very important to me.
I have been enlightened by Bobby and due to his posting, he made me 'think' about this a great deal. Thank you Bobby!

So...as I make small goals for myself, I will include this...I will make an effort to actually 'visit' my favorite blogs and/or comment more often. This is well, actually two small goals. One: visit often and Two: comment more.

Saturday, October 13, 2007

Are you a Hugger?

Beth is the author of one of my favorites blogs called My Life Starts at Forty-two.
She wrote a post about being a "hugger". She pointed out the interesting reactions of people when hugged.

Like Beth, I too am a hugger and sometimes crave a hug. Whether it is because I had a bad day or just want to feel close to someone, I find myself asking for a hug. The secure feeling when wrapped in someone's arms is such a pleasurable feeling. I grew up in a family that hugged often and I have always shared hugs with my son....and I hug my dog too!

I think it's an important way to show many feelings. Love, understanding, joy of seeing someone, reassurance, support, comfort, happiness.

I used to see only women exchanging hugs with each other, but more and more, I see men greeting each other with a quick hug. I have to admit, I love to see that men are now getting more comfortable with showing this kind of expression.

We all need hugs from time to time.

I found an interesting site about hugging at Georgia Girl. There were great uplifting messages about hugging on this site. I wanted to share a few with you.

Hope you enjoy them and keep hugging !

This is a picture from an article called, "The Rescuing Hug."


The article details the first week of life of a set of twins. Apparently, each were in their respective incubators, and one was not expected to live. A hospital nurse fought against the hospital rules and placed the babies in one incubator. When they were placed together, the healthier of the two threw an arm over her sister in an endearing embrace. The smaller baby's heart rate stabilized and her temperature rose to normal.
They both survived, and are thriving! In fact, now that the two girls are home, they still sleep together, and still snuggle. The hospital changed their policy after they saw the effect of putting the two girls together, and now they bed multiples together.

Ensign magazine May '98 pg. 94
Adapted from the Readers Digest article
"A Sister's Helping Hand" May 1996 Pp. 155-56



A DOCTOR'S PRESCRIPTION FOR HUGGING:
by Mark Katz, M.D., Member of L.A. Shanti's Advisory Board

"How important are hugging and physical and emotional contact for people affected by life - threatening illnesses? In my work, I have found that people who receive nurturing maintain a better outlook on their situation -- and historically, positive attitude is an important factor in long-term survival. Hugging and physical contact make a difference in a person's frame of mind, and may help their medical condition. Best of all, hugging has no side effects and does not require a trip to the doctor.

Hugging is good medicine. It transfers energy, and gives the person hugged an emotional boost. You need four hugs a day for survival, eight for maintenance, and twelve for growth. A hug makes you feel good. The skin is the largest organ we have and it needs a great deal of care. A hug can cover a lot of skin and gives the message that you care. It is also a form of communication. It can say things you don't have words for. The nicest thing about a hug is that you usually can't give one without getting one.



Hugging is healthy: it helps the body's immunity system, it keeps you healthier, it cures depression, it reduces stress, it induces sleep, it's invigorating, it's rejuvenating, it has no unpleasant side effects, and hugging is nothing less than a miracle drug.

-- Sharon Lindsey --

AND,...animals also engage in similar exchanges of warmth.

Friday, October 12, 2007

A Male's Perspective on "It's A Male Thing"

My post "It's a Male Thing" was about why when a male is looking for something, they look...and look...and they look, but still can not find what they're looking for?

Back in Septemeber Willard Barth viewed that post and left a comment giving us what could be the answer...

Below is his comment on this post:
Willard Barth has left a new comment on your post "It's A Male Thing....": {:~) Well from a male perspective, this actually happens for both sexes.

The human brain is one of the most powerful "supercomputers" on the planet. The challenge is that it doesn't come with a user's manual. It is suggested that we take in over 10 Billion bytes of information per second. As an adaptive process, we have become what some term "deletion machines" meaning that we only pay attention to what we choose to focus on (consciously, or unconsciously). Our subconscious mind therefore, simply follows the directions we give it as to what to focus on.

With that said, when someone cannot find something that is right in front of them, what has usually happened, is that they have already chosen to believe, before they even started looking that they were not going to find it. The mind literally creates a scotoma (blind spot) which prevents them from seeing what they are looking for.

September 9, 2007 4:52 PM


So there you have it...a professional opinion on why we can't seem to find what we are looking for and most times, it right in front of our faces.

What do you thnk?

Thursday, October 11, 2007

7 Keys to Success and Fulfillment ~ Conclusion

By Willard Barth

The seventh key is to “Step Out”. People who are successful and fulfilled have come to realize that they will never grow, they will never be fulfilled if they allow themselves to live inside of their “comfort zone”. They recognize that a person only truly begins to experience all that life can be, when they “step out” and experience new things… demanding more from themselves and from life.

“If you do what you have always done, you will get what you always gotten.” Stepping out means taking chances, facing fears, learning new skills and experiencing life in a whole new way. As I like to say, “Life truly begins, at the end of your comfort zone.”

It is my hope that this short introduction gives you the inspiration to reach out and learn more about these 7 Keys to Success and Fulfillment. As with anything in life, there is so much you can learn, if you truly choose to, and this subject has endless possibilities for you.

I do promise that if you take what I have shared with you here, and begin applying it in your life, that you will begin to see results that amaze you.

I look forward to your questions, and to your success stories.

Love and Respect
Willard

Tuesday, October 9, 2007

Internet Phone Solution

If you are looking for an Internet Phone Solution, I found many options available at iConnectHere.

Ever since I signed up for my Internet phone, I have saved a lot of money. I quite honestly was getting tired of paying the high cost of telephone service to Verizon. With iConnectHere, I was putting more money in my pocket.

They offer a $30 Bonus for all new Sign ups, plus a low monthly basic world plan at just $6.99 per month.
You will receive a Free Phone Adapter which you connect to your new home router and then just start making calls. You receive plenty of features that you are familiar with and you can keep your phone number.
Some Features are: voice mail, Caller ID, 911 service, 3-way calling, call waiting.

I have to admit, I was alittle hesitant to switch phone service. If you're not familiar with iconnecthere, I found they have the lowest call rates and the highest quality. They are part of the deltathree group (Nasdaq listed) and have been operating in the VoIP industry for over 10 years.

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Monday, October 8, 2007

7 Keys to Success and Fulfillment ~ Part 4

By Willard Barth

Explaining the 5th and 6th key:

The fifth key is to “Exemplify Generosity”. People who are successful and fulfilled know the deeper meaning to the adage “giving is receiving” and therefore they are a living example of generosity. Begin to recognize right now, that if you want love… you need to give it. If you want compassion… you need to give it. Anything you want in life, if you first give it… whole heartedly and without attachment or expectation… you will receive it in return.

Giving without attachment or expectation is where most people run into trouble. So many people live in fear of “not receiving” what they want, that they give with the intention of “you better give me this back… or else”. That is not exemplifying generosity. There is a definite line between giving with a generous heart, and giving from a place of manipulation.

People who are successful and fulfilled give because they know that it lifts their energy, their spirit and their existence to do so. AND they are open to receive when it is returned to them in kind.

Whatever it is that you want to receive… love, compassion, respect, success, money… give generously to others… and you will receive in kind

The sixth key to success and fulfillment is “Live in Integrity”. If you look at the definition of Integrity it says “to live in adherence to a code of values”. Now the challenge is that many people expect you to live to a specific code of values, and expect “their” code… to be yours. Your values will be shaped by recognizing your “authentic self”. People who are successful and fulfilled are clear on what their values are and live by them. No matter what.

People who are successful and fulfilled also respect that their definition of being “in Integrity” is not always aligned with others, and they give other people the freedom to be who they are and live by those values.

The key for them, is that their lives have to be lived according to their values if they will ever be truly happy.

Sunday, October 7, 2007

Gifts For Him

It's that time of year when we begin searching for that perfect holiday gift for the people in our lives.

I, myself take time to really find something suitable for everyone on my list. I usually find myself spending a little extra time trying to find the best gifts for him, the special guy who I've been spending time with.

Although I don't want to go over the top with something too personal, I think my best bet would be getting something he can use around the house. What guy doesn't like power tools or something he can use in the 'sacred garage'.

He's always complaining that he doesn't have enough storage for his tools, so maybe a 3 drawer tool box he can keep in the garage would be a hit. And because he's such a fanatic about water spots on his car and motorcycle, I found this compact car and motorcycle dryer that might bring a smile to his face.

What kind of gifts do you buy the man in your life?

Pet Injury Coverage

I was surprised the other day to learn that my son's auto insurance company now offers him a FREE pet injury coverage endorsement.

Two years ago his prior insurance company kicked him out of their plan due to two tickets he received from 3 years ago. This really annoyed us because these tickets weren't anything of importance, but in the long run, that company did him a favor.

He just leased an H3 (a baby Hummer) and amended his policy to include this vehicle. Turns out he's saving money and received the pet injury coverage I mentioned.
BTW: I love this truck. I sometimes get to drive it too and was surprised how it handles like a car and gets decent gas mileage.

The coverage reads:
...if you purchased collision coverage for at least one covered auto under your
policy and your pet sustains injury or death as a result of a collision
involving any covered auto or non-owned auto, we will pay up to $500 for
reasonable and customary costs incurred by you or a relative for vet fees or pet
replacement cost if you pet dies in the accident...

It is my understanding that his insurance company is the first major car insurance company to provide this pet injury coverage.

This is a start. Ok, so the amount of $500 isn't very much, but it's something...being an animal lover, I consider my dog as one of the family. I always felt there should be insurance available to me to protect her in case of illness. Vet bills are outrageous!

Well, now at least she'll be covered if riding in my sons truck.

I just thought this was great news and I was so excited about it...just had to share...

Saturday, October 6, 2007

7 Keys to Success and Fulfillment ~ Part 3

Exploring the Third and Forth Key
By Willard Barth

The third key, is that people who are successful and fulfilled “Participate”. There is a huge difference between participating and being active in the process, and living life the way most people do, which is passing time waiting for life to “happen”. How many people do you know who are “waiting” for things to be just right before they start living? They’re waiting for their kids to grow up, for their job to change, for the right person to come along, to win the lottery, etc., etc.

People who are successful and fulfilled know that it is their responsibility to go out and “plug themselves in” to the Universe and be open to the resulting experience. They find resources that allow them to get active in pursuing their dreams. It can be signing up for a class, joining a networking group, reading books, talking with friends, joining a gym. They participate in the process rather than waiting for it to happen.

The fourth key is “Trust Life”. This has probably been one of the keys that I have personally struggled with the most. I was taught as a child, that to be successful, I needed to focus my energy and attention on the goal and don’t let anything get in my way. So, when I set my mind to something, I go into what I call “Bull dozer mode”. I think many of you can imagine what that mode is like. If anything got in my way, I just bull dozed right over it. Now… let me tell you… I achieved my goals. And… at a great cost to myself and others. You see, something I learned along the way is that Life, God, The Universe, whatever you choose to refer to that Higher Power as, will help you achieve ANYTHING you desire. AND that Source or Universal Intelligence knows a lot more about the skills and knowledge that you need to be successful and fulfilled than you do. I have learned that every time I begin experiencing things that are not aligned with where I think I am supposed to be going, it is because I am being given lessons, and tools that will help me achieve my goal, as well as manage and enjoy it when it comes to life.

Trusting life means that I have to realize that even when things are going the total opposite direction of where I believe they are supposed to be going, that there is an Intelligence greater than mine, that knows exactly what has to happen for me to get to my destination. The people who are successful and fulfilled trust life, and enjoy who they are becoming along the way.

Look for Part 4 on Monday

Friday, October 5, 2007

7 Keys to Success and Fulfillment ~ Part 2

By Willard Barth

The second key we will explore is called “Being Authentic”. I was having a discussion with a dear friend recently about the power of “authenticity” and how it impacts every area of our lives. He was sharing how he was so frustrated with the way that people were being dishonest with him, and that he was finding that so many people who were coming to him for help would not keep their commitments.

I shared with him something I had heard recently that really affected me. I told him that I didn’t believe that these people were intentionally trying to mislead him, or that they intended to break their commitments. But that because they were not being authentic with themselves, about who they are, and who they desire to become, that they were so busy trying to live up to unrealistic expectations, that they were telling him what they thought he wanted to hear, and then not being able to follow through.

You see, I believe that many people live in a state of what we call “quiet desperation”. We have been taught all our lives who and what we “should be” based on other people’s perceptions of the world, and their expectations for us. Yet, inside we have a very specific and unique gift that we have come to share with the world. There is only one you… and you are here for a very specific purpose. Yet, most of us spend our lives trying to be someone else. We see someone we respect or admire, and spend our lives trying to be them. Or we believe what well meaning family, friends, teachers tell us and do our best to live as they want us to.

People who are successful and fulfilled recognize that their calling is their own. That they need to “embrace their duality” of what the world expects of them, and what their special abilities are, and create something unique and authentic. You see, when you embrace that duality, you step into a place of creation. By being “authentic” you take all the experiences that have been shared with you externally, and mix them with what your “internal compass” gives you, and when you do this, you are living “on purpose”

Part 3 Coming on Saturday

Wednesday, October 3, 2007

7 Keys to Success and Fulfillment ~ PART 1

By Willard Barth...

So let’s get started. The first key that I want to share with you is that people who are both successful and fulfilled understand the “Power of New Dreams”. Understanding the Power of New Dreams is realizing that life is not about the destination, it is about the journey, and even more importantly, about who you become along the way. A sure recipe for feeling unsuccessful and unfulfilled is attaching too much expectation to a specific goal. So many people say “When I achieve this…” or “When this finally happens… THEN I will be successful and feel fulfilled.” The challenge is that rarely is the achievement what we expected. We reach the goal and are left feeling like there should be more... that we haven’t done enough yet.

People who are successful and fulfilled realize that the “outcome” is not as important as who we become along the way. What new skills did we need to learn? What experiences did we have? Who did we meet? And where has this brought us to in our lives? More importantly… now that we are at this new place, what opportunities has it created? What new perceptions do we have? And what can we do next? What new dreams has this one inspired?

Now… I want to be clear that this does not mean that you have to be building a multi-billion dollar enterprise. It can be in any area of your life. Let’s apply this idea to health. Let’s imagine that you want to lose weight. I think most of us would agree that we can think of a few people we know… maybe very well… who have set a goal for losing a specific amount of weight. Who have lost that weight, and then gained it right back. It is my belief that the reason they gained it back, was because they placed too much emphasis on the “goal” and did not pay attention to the process. Let me explain.

I have a friend who wanted to lose 20 pounds, and they did… repeatedly. We talked about this up and down experience they were having, and I shared with them the 7 Keys. One of the first things they decided to do was attach less meaning to the “goal” and agreed that their life was going to be a series of “New Dreams” and new goals. This became only one outcome that they were focused on in their journey. In effect, they changed their approach to, “Who do I need to become to achieve this goal?” and they started living AS the person they wanted to become. As they did this, they began finding other “new dreams”. They realized that if they were going to reshape their physical image of themselves, they needed to reshape their mental, emotional and spiritual vision of themselves. It was no longer about one “goal” but about recognizing their true potential, and living it.

Please understand that when working with clients, I actually dedicate a weekend to this process, where we explore in much more detail the practical and spiritual impact of the idea of “New Dreams” and help people gain a deeper understanding of how this one idea itself can transform your life. And, for the purpose of this article, let me simply share this idea with you. So many of us have gotten caught up in the idea of “making a living” that we have forgotten the power we have to “design our life”. So many people have given up on dreams to follow the path that is in front of them.

Remember that we are spiritual beings, who have been given the gift of life so that we could “experience” the true potential within ourselves and make manifest a life that is totally unique to who we are. We can only do this through applying these 7 Keys. It is my belief that constantly being aware of where we are, seeing what is there and what we desire to create is what keeps us alive and moving forward. “It is in the mind of the dreamer, that the future is shaped”
– Willard Barth

Look For PART 2 ~ Key #2

Monday, October 1, 2007

Who is Willard Barth?

Introduction:

Willard Barth Lost his left leg at the tender age of 10 due to cancer. He turned what others call a disability into a positive experience, after overcoming many struggles and obstacles in his life.

Willard has been involved in the study of human behavior, personal and spiritual development for over 18 years and has studied and worked with some of the most recognized people in these fields.

Willard is a singer/songwriter, who chooses inspirational music to reach others.He performs regularly with the Legendary Guitarist Les Paul at the Iridium Jazz club and has shared the stage with Tommy Shaw (Styx), Richie Cannata (Billy Joel), Joey Moranz (Paul McCartney), and Antonia Bennett.

Churches, Organizations and Retreat Organizers call upon Willard to share his skills and his music to inspire.

I am So completely honored to have Willard be a guest here. He has agreed to write a special article for my readers on "7 Keys to Success and Fulfillment". I hope you enjoy this special presentation. I will bring to you his complete article that he forwarded to me in a series of posts.


To start...In Willard's words:

Hello, my name is Willard Barth and I am here to share with you some key distinctions that will help you begin living a life of both Success and Fulfillment.

It has been my experience having been involved in the fields of personal and spiritual development for over 18 years that many people are leading lives that are not complete. People usually approach me for training and coaching because they have a huge desire to achieve more in their lives. They know they have the ability to do great things, but seem to be “stuck”, or… they have achieved great success, but still feel there is something more… that there is something they are missing.

I’m going to share with you right now what I call “The 7 Keys to Success and Fulfillment.” What you will become aware of, just as I did when these were shared with me, is that they are not a “step by step” process, but rather a set of ingredients that when mixed together, create a synergistic affect that makes success and fulfillment practically “effortless”.

By becoming aware of these 7 Keys and incorporating them into every area of your life, you will be guaranteed to see results in your health, your relationships, your finances, your career and your overall well being. You will find these 7 Keys to be profoundly effective in any area you choose to apply them.

First, I want to say that I believe success and fulfillment are 2 very personal experiences. What defines success and fulfillment for one person is not success and fulfillment to another. So as we explore these 7 Keys, I want you to make sure to take some time, to truly evaluate what those words mean to you. This is about creating the life that YOU deserve.

Visit Willard at http://www.willardbarth.com/

Look for Part 1 on Wednesday

The Spirit of Christmas



I found this waiting for me one night upon arriving home.
Santa's Community Blog presented me with the Spirit of Christmas award. Truly a great present. Thank you SO much!

What is the Spirit of Christmas you ask?

Quite simply it is those that have a generous and giving nature. Those who care about others. Those who have a kind word to say or a broad shoulder to lean on in the times that others need that. Those who display the "Spirit of Christmas".

The true holiday spirit is about love, kindness, peace and goodwill to all. Although I am a summer person, Christmas is my favorite time of year. I absolutely love the feeling as the season approaches. I get nostalgic thinking about my childhood and when my son was young. I feel more love for everyone and everything. I think my heart actually glows.

I think everyone should have the spirit of christmas. Wouldn't that be amazing?! I do try to keep my Christmas spirit alive all year long.

I want to present the Spirit of Christmas to:

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