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Monday, December 31, 2007

Welcoming The New Year

As the old year changes into the New Year, I want to wish you all a year filled with good health, prosperity, love that surrounds you, happiness, peace and light.

As 2007 began, I had decided to make this year one of positive change, put ideas into motion, accomplish goals, continue with self improvement and grow as a person.

The year had it's ups and downs. Days filled with good/bad and happy/sad times, successful experiences, mistakes made and many lessons learned. Those who are regular readers here, know that God called home loved ones which saddened me greatly, but working through the grieving process.

I have welcomed some wonderful people into my life and that has been an enriching experience. I have a special someone in my life who has brought more to me than he realizes. I have experienced pleasure in teaching others how to be successful and believe in themselves. This was one goal accomplished that I am proud of, along with having articles published.

Overall, I have to say, 2007 was a good year as far as my personal endevours and am thankful with what I have accomplished so far. My circle of friends, acquaintances and associates slightly changed. This was a necessary change for me to be successful within myself, business and in life in general. Sometimes change is a positive.

I had begun blogging in March (AC Associates Blog) which has brought so many positives into my life. Another blog emerged in May (A Circle of Women) which only brought more pleasurable experiences. Through support, friendship and others sharing their knowledge, I have gained inspiration, confidence, and motivation.

So many bloggers have touched my life and am grateful for their impact on my life.

I look forward to 2008 with optimism and just as I started 2007, I will continue on my quest to grow, learn, accomplish and improve.

We all have the ability to be successful. Create the life you wish for beginning with this New Year. You may want to review the Your Heart's Desire 9 part series I posted at AC Associates that began in August.

Here's to 2008 ~

And, Natalie (Hippie)...you aren't here to 'clink' glasses and toast with me as we did last year, but I will raise my glass and toast to friendship...later 'gator

Sunday, December 30, 2007

Talking To Yourself CAN Be A Good Thing

How often do you find yourself talking to yourself? No, not talking out loud, but the inner voice that speaks to you? Most times I bet you’re hearing negative things…I look terrible today, Why did I wear this outfit? I look awful in this color, I made a mistake at work~I messed up, I can’t do this or that…

Every time you hear yourself talking in a negative tone, turn the negative into a positive. Break the habit of hearing only negative... break the cycle within yourself. Hear yourself saying how wonderful you look, how you’ve learned something new, how you were successful at work, how you CAN do this or that, how you are a good person. Replace the negative self-talk in your head with words of encouragement, happiness and support. Be your own cheerleader!

Learning and practicing positive self-talk, can improve your life, mental outlook and attitude. Repetitive positive phases that you hear will make a difference in your outlook, it will encourage you and it will make you believe in yourself.

Believing in the negative, will keep you in a negative state and you will share that tone with others around you. Start small if this is something new for you. If you can do this for a few days, you’ll find it will be easy to keep doing it.

Every time you hear a negative….STOP….and replace it with something positive. I bet if you pay close attention during the day to just how many times you hear yourself talking in negative phrases, you will be surprised.

Try it…for one day listen carefully and hear yourself talking. What are you hearing?

Saturday, December 29, 2007

A Lecture From Mom

My Mom and I got into a conversation regarding life insurance. Her lecture on why I need to have this coverage at this time of my life is important, got me thinking I should consider it. And by the way, You're never too old to get a lecture from a parent!

For some reason, I never really thought about it. The whole insurance thing confuses me. All the different types of policies, terms, values etc...

I certainly don't want to leave a financial burden on my son or other members of my family. If you have experienced a death of a parent as I have, it is such an emotional time, with many other things to do which clouds your mind for days, weeks and months.

Turning to the Internet as I do for most things I research, the first site I came across was Advantage Term Life. I was able to read information regarding all the different types of policies in easy to understand language.
Information on:Term ,Whole Life ,Universal,Key Man ,Second to die ,Group Policies ,Mortgage,Smokers

I was interested in learning about the Whole Life Policy and the Mortgage Insurance policy. The Mortgage policy would pay off the mortgage in the event of death or become terminally/critically ill.

This site offers free quotes and the ability to compare rates, so I guess you can say I took my first step. Won't my Mom be happy!

Does anyone have knowledge in this area to help with my confusion?

It's All About Gratitude

I am against the war and probably shouldn't share my views here. I do think we should have ended 'the problem' immediately after 9/11, but...

I am proud and thankful of our service men and women who defend US....United States Citizens. Blessings to them, their family and loved ones.

Watch this video, it will touch you.

I just learned my friends 23 yr old son is going over to Iraq in February. I can only imagine the thoughts and fears as a mom she is experiencing, including her sons' fears and all that love them.

Please remember to pray for all involved. It means more than you know.

Thank you to my cousin Nancy, who brought this video to my attention.

Thursday, December 27, 2007

While You Read, You Learn

One of my many favorites listed at Technorati is the AdesBlog. He provides great tips and resources about several topics and I have learned a thing or two from reading his posts. One post, EntreCard Performance brought my attention to the EntreCard site. Maybe I'm last in learning about this site, but after checking it out, I joined on 12/23.

I have to say, since joining, I have come across some great blogs that I otherwise might not have known about. This site offers you your business card to network with other bloggers, while bringing traffic to your blog. Mind you, this is all free. Go to EntreCard to learn more and how it all works. Additionally, I am noticing a change in my stats for Alexa, Real Rank, MBL and BC all for the better due to the new traffic which is definitely there.

Since 12/23, here are my stats for my blogs. As you can see, additional traffic is noted. Hopefully, I have gained some readers while bloggers are dropping their card at my blog.

A Circle of Women:
203 credits in your account
53 credits to advertise on your blog
150 cards you dropped
133 cards dropped on you
21 clicks via ads you placed
42 clicks from your blog to others
9 ads you bought
9 ads bought from you
150 clicks from entrecard.com to you

AC Associates Blog
34 credits in your account
46 credits to advertise on your blog
152 cards you dropped 117 cards dropped on you
82 clicks via ads you placed
37 clicks from your blog to others
10 ads you bought 8 ads bought from you
123 clicks from entrecard.com to you

A Contest You Should Consider:

While dropping my card on other blogs, I came across Big Pappa at The Big Bald Blog. I was immediately drawn to his blog. I like his style, humor, the information he provides...he's got soul.
Anyone who can admit in a post not knowing how to pronounce 'meme', is okay in my book. I was laughing out loud for I thought I was the only one that didn't know. Ok, there...I admitted it too. And, thanks to Big Pappa, I now know how to pronounce meme.

Big Pappa is running a contest and offering some cool prizes:
An 8 Gig iPod Touch
500 Entrecard Credits
A total blog review from Mike over at Bloggin-Ads
Some cool Big Pappa Worldwide gear

Check out his site for the rules. If you decide not to enter the contest, check out his blog anyway. You'll enjoy your visit.

After having said all that I did, last but not least,I want to thank all who have paid with their credits to spotlight their blog on my sites. I also want to express my appreciation for those bloggers who have allowed my advertisement on their blogs. I think I found a new fun addiction...

Wednesday, December 26, 2007

11 Year Olds on Birth Control??

On Christmas morning while I had some time to relax, I turned on the Montel Williams show. His guest was Judge Judy. I heard something that just got me upset. It concerns middle school aged children, grades 6 thru 8.

Judge Judy was saying that when parents sign those permission medical forms...you know giving the school permission to provide medical care to your child if the parents are not readily available, the school can give medical treatment to your child.

Here is the horrifying part: did you know that the permission form you sign, gives the school permission to give your daughter birth control pills or son contraceptives? Oh My God, imagine...11 year olds on birth control. Do 11 yr olds even know what to do at that age?! What judgement do 11 year olds have?

It seems in Maine a decision was passed, voted 7-2 to make this happen. What is worse is that this birth control (medication) is given WITHOUT the parents' knowledge.

As a mother, I would not want my 11 yr old son having sex, nor would I want the school to step in and give my son condoms without my knowledge. I have trouble putting sex in the same sentence with 11 year olds.
I remember as a single parent, having the 'talk' with my son at an early age, but I did not have to worry about him actually having or even thinking about having sex.

This brings up several concerns. Are parents educating their children to the best of their ability? If the children in Maine or in other states are becoming pregnant at the age of 11, something is seriously wrong.

If birth control is given to these children, are they aware this is not consent to go out and have sex, nor protect them from disease? Is this actually encouraging them to have sex?

And, think about the young, growing bodies of an 11 yr old little girl. Giving hormones to these girls? What does this do to the chemistry in their body?

I know times are changing. Young children are growing up way too fast. We allow them to wear certain clothing that really is suitable for older kids, we allow them to watch certain shows and movies that are really not for young children.

Is it the parents, society, peer pressure, celebrities who encourage? Who isn't teaching morals and values?

Why can't kids just be kids?

Video provided about Associated Press:
Students in Maine will be able to get birth control pills and patches at their student center

In Washington, another view on the subject.

Monday, December 24, 2007

Merry Christmas!

Today Christmas Eve day, I am finally done with all my baking. I think I gained a few pounds just from sampling the cookies I made, but I tell you...it was worth it! ha...You have to taste what you're baking, right!?!

I just posted on my other blog something you might find inspiring.
Teach The Children the Symbols of Christmas. In case some of us forget the 'true' meaning of Christmas.
Do you know what the Symbols of Christmas mean?

I hope all of you have a peaceful holiday, filled with Love, Happiness, Faith and Hope.

Friday, December 21, 2007

The Sky Angel Cowboy

Logan is a 13 year-old boy who lives on a ranch in a very small town in Nebraska. Logan listens to Christian Radio station 89.3FM KSBJ which broadcasts from Houston, TX. Logan called the radio station distraught because he had to take down a calf. His words have wisdom beyond his years.

Out of the mouths of babes we are reminded...out of the mouths of babes we are inspired.
Thank you Logan for sharing this with us and giving us a very special message.

I know what you had to do was extremely hard, but you did what had to be done.
Many Blessings to you and your family.


Thursday, December 20, 2007

Do You Fear Rejection?

My young co-worker has had his eye on a certain female for quite awhile now. We talk frequently about her and when I asked if he wanted to ask her on a date, he said...sure, but I'm not.
Why not I asked. His answer...because she might say no.

Well, I was blown away. Here is a confident young man in other areas of his life, but he's afraid he'll be rejected. I mentioned taking chances is what life is about. If you don't take a chance, you will live with the regret of never knowing...the what if's...

Rejection can come in many different ways. Rejection in romance, families, business, friends and even strangers. If the fear of rejection is such a big obstacle, what can you do about it?

Well, I think that if you have high self esteem, it isn't such a big deal if someone you asked out turns you down. If you have low self esteem, I think working on that area will help.You're still the same person you were before you asked. You actually gave the person you asked out a compliment just by showing you wanted to spend more time with them. You had the courage to ask someone out and if you get turned down, you're not going to die. Your life doesn't depend on the approval of this person.

If you get turned down once, twice or even more than that, there is certainly a chance that someone else will say 'yes'...so keep positive. Sure it can be disappointing or even discouraging, but if you try not to take it personally, you'll see you can live through rejection. Maybe a person says 'no' for other reasons and has nothing to do with you at all. Rejection can actually turn you into a stronger, more confident and determined person instead of being weak or afraid.

Its all in your state of mind and how you view rejection. Looking at rejection as a negative will cause you to have negative feelings. Letting yourself look at things in a positive manner will keep you strong and ready for the next time you are ready to ask someone out. Take a chance...you never know until you do.

If anyone has any tips, stories to share on this subject, please leave a comment.

Wednesday, December 19, 2007

A Linky Love Thank you ~ Round 1

Just wanted to say thank you for those in my blogging community. I truly appreciate each and every one of you.

I hope you have a peaceful, Happy Holiday and a New Year that brings much love, good health and all your dreams come true.

If you don't see your blog below, don't worry...I haven't forgotten you. Round 2 will be coming soon. Many blessings...

Merry Christmas

Peopleized Revellian Book Project My Life Starts at fortytwo and to think Interesting Observations
Feel Happy The Thinking Blog Egotastic Money from Scratch The Wrong Advices Wonderland or Not
Santa's Community Blog Jackal Outfit Inspirations Virtual Entrepreneur My Life is Murphy's LawBloggers Blog Your Wisdom of Total Happiness Climate of Our Future Acquire Wisdom and Live with Passion A Week in the Life of a Redhead Looking Beyond the Cracked Window...Who is Zubli Zainordin Blog Cave Make Money With Kassper ProBlogger Midlife Perspective FreshBlogger Jeanine's Bits and Pieces Million Dollar Challenge She Walks in Beauty Reflections of Time Blog Elf Simon's Money Notes Blog Dune Visionwiz
The MyBlogLog Blog A Blog About Money Online Personal Development Personal Touch Health & Fitness Angie's Organic Reviews Self HypnosisProgram.com NAFASG Laketrees PayPerPost Blogging Den
The Painted Veil Strategic Internet Marketing Language Trainers UK Blog Full Plate The Spirit Knows Best Photos from Northern Norway Daily Blessings MichiganFSBOhomes.com A Parent's Blog mickiberthelot.com Doing it the Tiny Bellows Way MariucaLife to Success What is going on, blog
Journey with Water Learner Sharmini's harmony everyday should be Christmas Adsense Tracker
15 Minute Dating Blog Just a girl in short shorts Life is Just around the corner My escape
Spirituality and Religion Feeling Flirty Winehiker Witiculture Footsteps Awesome Blog Listing
The Radula in cinq Mommy loves diamonds The Views of the all seeing eye TexasRealtyBlog
John Cow Steven Wilson Marketing MyWayOnNow Potpourri Yahoo Develper Network
Mommy's Make money News you need Cell Tech Hub She's got so much to say Abhishek Tiwari
This is a Miracle Local Mortgage Ad Resources A worn out woman's journey Lifehacker Voice of Bragg
New England Lighthouse blog Chessnoid Internet Safety-Keeping our children safer online
Music, Movies and TV shows Skittle's Place woman: Gods Masterpiece Polliwog's Pond
Emma Alvarz Blog Justin Stanley's Web Blog Z money Birds Guide Hot girls 4 you FatBoy Slimming
Nothing to see here, move along Feline Warrior Stormdrane's Blog Your Caring Angels
Speedcat Hollydale Page Sharmini's harmony Rainbow after the storm Survival Wytch
Home Improvement Tips CornerstoneContracting This is a Miracle She's got so much to say
Abhishek Tiwani Stuck in Customs:Photography Blog SiteLogic Web Development

Monday, December 17, 2007

The Golden Compass: Is This Atheism For Kids?

With the new movie The Golden Compass hitting the theaters, many parents will be taking their children to see the movie.
I do not have any young ones and this type of movie doesn't interest me, but after a friend of mine sent me a review of this movie, it got my attention.

The movie has been described as "atheism for kids" and is based on the first book of a trilogy entitled "His Dark Materials" written by Phillip Pullman. Pullman is a militant atheist and secular humanist who despises C. S. Lewis and the "Chronicles of Narnia." His motivation for writing this trilogy was specifically to counteract Lewis' symbolisms of Christ portrayed in the Narnia series.

Both the book and the movie introduce atheism to children. The story ends with Adam and Eve killing God

Clearly, Pullman's main objective is to bash Christianity and promote atheism. Pullman left little doubt about his intentions when he said in a 2003 interview, "my books are about killing God." He has even stated that he wants "to kill God in the minds of children." It has been said of Pullman that he is "the writer the atheists would be praying for, if atheists prayed."

While "The Golden Compass" movie itself may seem mild and innocent, the books are a much different story. In the trilogy, a young streetwise girl becomes enmeshed in an epic struggle to ultimately defeat the oppressive forces of a senile God. Another character, an ex- nun, describes Christianity as "a very powerful and convincing mistake." In the final book, characters representing Adam and Eve eventually kill God, who at times is called YAHWEH. Each book in the trilogy gets progressively worse regarding Pullman's hatred of Jesus Christ.

Hmmm...and this movie premiered in December. A coincidence?

I recently read a review by Cooper. Read her review and comments by clicking HERE

Please give me your thoughts and if you have seen this movie, what did you think?

Sunday, December 16, 2007

Time Just Flies By...

I can't believe it's been 5 or 6 days since my last post. Time is just flying by. Having been busy with Christmas, friends and just my life...time hasn't allowed for my regular posting. Have you all been busy with Christmas approaching?

All my Christmas shopping is done and today I wrapped every single present...whew...it took hours, I can now get back to a regular schedule.

Although I will be baking this coming weekend. My family looks forward to the assortment of cookies I bake. I guess I started a tradition without realizing it. If I fail to make a certain cookie, I hear...where's this or that. My son certainly lets me hear it if I don't make these peppermint cream candies. A cinch to make, but last year I forgot and he couldn't believe I didn't make them. Soooo, there I was on Christmas eve making the candy.

I have a new man in my life and he's already told me that he loves chocolate chips. You can be sure I'll be including those on baking day!

Do you have a favorite cookie or one that just wouldn't be Christmas without them? If you'd like to share a favorite recipe, please do. I'm always looking for new and delicious cookies to make.

You can get 100's of cookie recipes from northpole.com. Click Here and be directed right to Mrs. Claus kitchen. No kiddin...there's hundreds of recipes on this site.

Some Inspiration

Children help create who you are.

Your spirit is renewed when you connect to a soul that you feel to be a part of you.

Not until you know how to be true to you, not until you know how to speak kindly of you, will you ever learn how to live correctly in the world of man.

To live kindly, be…
When life feels like a struggle, it is because you are being led instead of you being in the lead.

Exercise: What you need from life:

Imagine that you are given four different things you could become. You could become a waterfall, a large tree, a river, or a mountain. Which one of these four, would you want to become?

Tree – You need freedom, flexibility, and for life to be more simplistic.

Waterfall - You need structure, but you need the tools in order to help you build the foundation.

Tower – You need a purpose. You feel lost.

River – No more conflict, just someone or somewhere to escape in order for you to regroup and reenergize.

Mountain – You want peace, safety, and no more obstacles or hurdles for you to overcome.

Monday, December 10, 2007

Perfume Can Harm Us?

I love to wear perfume. I have certain fragrances for spring/summer and ones for fall/winter. I'm an earthy type, so fragrances for winter include musk, vanilla...anything woodsy, if you know what I mean.

I recently read something that certainly has me looking at perfumes alittle differently.

According to a report published by the National Academy of Sciences, the following chemicals are commonly used in perfumes and can cause various reactions:

propylene glycol, which is considered to be a chemical that damages the immune system

cyclohexanol, which has a depressive action on the central nervous system

linalool, which has been shown to cause an irregular gait, depression and respiratory problems

methyl ethyl ketone, which can cause unconsciousness, emphysema, and congestion of the liver and kidneys

formaldehyde, which is a known carcinogen with many damaging traits.

There's a problem though because perfume companies are not required to list their ingredients. Why? Because chemical formulas of fragrances are considered trade secrets!

The good news is that organic perfumes are slowly emerging into the marketplace and I'll be trying one of these.

Has anyone tried one of these organic perfumes? If so, can you give us your thoughts.

Wednesday, December 5, 2007

Do You and Sweeney Todd Have Revenge in Common?

I just came across a promo for the new Tim Burton film, Sweeney Todd which opens on December 21st.

This movie is a Thriller about a man who is unjustly sent to prison and vows to seek revenge for not only the cruel punishment he received, but for what happened to his wife and daughter.

When out of prison, he returns to become the Demon Barber of Fleet Street. Men seem to disappear after having their heads shaved at the Barber Shop. Apparently Sweeney Todd didn't forget or forgive, huh?
Visit the official Sweeney Todd movie site to watch the trailer, get updates and downloads.

...revenge...primarily retaliation against a person in response to a perceived wrongdoing. In forcing the wrongdoer to suffer some pain that was inflicted. Some believe that the injury inflicted in revenge should be greater than the original one as punishment. What are your thoughts on revenge?

Well, this promo included a site you can visit and discuss acts of revenge. Are you guilty of revenge? Here you can offer your own "Dashboard Confessional". To confess and get it off your chest. Call in, write or even submit a video. Read what others are confessing.

Sweeney Todd is making waves. You can even visit Sweeney Todd on MySpace, request to add him to your friends and in doing so, have a chance to meet the hunky Johnny Depp.

Adults Like To Play Games Too!

Simone at Outfit Inspirations has been extremely busy working on the Great Christmas Scavenger Hunt. This idea of hers enables the blogger community to join in some fun.

The Christmas Scavenger Hunt has officially begun!

Scavenger sign

Children can’t have all the fun! We adults like to play games too!

Now here’s your chance to put your intuitive, investigative nature to work and have a chance to win an IPOD.

Simone is definitely feeling the Christmas Spirit and wants to bring cheer to others.

To take part in the Christmas Scavenger Hunt, you must download the official entry form. You can click here

The objective of this online scavenger hunt is to collect a bunch of hidden Christmas Letters using the clues on the Entry Form. The catch? These Christmas letters are scattered throughout different sites on the web. When you find the answer to the clues, you will also see a clickable button. When you click on it, it will bring you to the next site.

That's it! Have fun and meet some friends along the way. If you are the lucky winner, you will receive an IPOD to enjoy and always remember you received it through the Great Christmas Scavenger Hunt made possible by Simone.

Thank you Simone for all your hard work!

Free eCards To Help Toys For Tots

Have you ever heard of the Marines Toys for Tots? This has been an ongoing tradition in the United States Marine Corp. Reserves for 60 years now! Toys for Tots delivered an amazing 19.2 million toys to over 7.6 million children.

But, there are literally over 13 million children living in poverty and Toys for Tots is asking in the name of the Holiday Spirit in each of us to help out this year.

If you are sending eCards this holiday season, here is a great way to raise money for Toys for Tots by simply sending free eCards to your friends and family. Here’s the scoop: Month2Month.com is a totally free, high quality eCard web site that has joined with Toys for Tots and will make a contribution for every holiday card that is received. Their site has no advertising, doesn’t require subscriptions, sign-ups or downloading toolbars. And the cards are great…better than what you’d find on those other sites that charge for subscriptions. This is what the holiday spirit is all about... giving. So let’s all take advantage of this and PLEASE!!!! Pass this along to everyone you know.
Here's where to find Toys for Tots free eCards

Tuesday, December 4, 2007

Speaking to Customer Service Rep

I received this email the other day and I found it not only extremely funny, but True! Have you ever had to call a customer service representative with a question, problem etc...regarding your credit card account? My Gosh it can be so draining, time consuming and down right aggravating.

Hope this brings a chuckle...

Now some people are just plain stupid!!!!

Be sure and cancel your credit cards before you die. This is so priceless, and so, so easy to see happening, customer service being what it is today.
A lady died this past January, and Citibank billed her for February and March for their annual service charges on her credit card, and added late fees and interest on the monthly charge. The balance had been $0.00, now somewhere around $60.00. A family member placed a call to Citibank.

Here is the exchange:

Family Member: "I am calling to tell you she died in January."

Citibank: "The account was never closed and the late fees and charges still apply."

Family Member: "Maybe, you should turn it over to collections."

Citibank: "Since it is two months past due, it already has been."

Family Member: So, what will they do when they find out she is dead?"

Citibank: "Either report her account to frauds division or report her to the credit bureau, maybe both!"

Family Member: "Do you think God will be mad at her?" (I really liked this part!!!!)

Citibank: "Excuse me?"

Family Member: "Did you just get what I was telling you - the part about her being dead?"

Citibank: "Sir, you'll have to speak to my supervisor."

Supervisor gets on the phone:

Family Member: "I'm calling to tell you, she died in January."

Citibank : "The account was never closed and late fees and charges still apply." (This must be a phrase taught by the bank!)

Family Member: "You mean you want to collect from her estate?"

Citibank: (Stammer) "Are you her lawyer?"

Family Member: "No, I'm her great nephew."

Citibank: "Could you fax us a certificate of death?"

Family Member: "Sure." (Fax number is given )

After they get the fax:

Citibank: "Our system just isn't setup for death. I don't know what more I can do to help."

Family Member: "Well, if you figure it out, great! If not, you could just keep billing her. I don't think she will care."

Citibank: "Well, the late fees and charges do still apply." (What is wrong with these people?!?)

Family Member: "Would you like her new billing address?"

Citibank: "That might help."

Family Member: " Odessa Memorial Cemetery , Highway 129, Plot Number 69."

Citibank: "Sir, that's a cemetery!"

Family Member: "What do you do with dead people on your planet???

Sunday, December 2, 2007


Love is experienced in many different ways.

Referring to romantic love, Does any of this sound familiar?

New found love or when you realize you are in love ...it makes you glow. Don't you feel more healthier when in love? I mean...your skin glows, your eyes glisten, you smile more, your energy is up, you feel more 'alive', you're bursting with excitement, your heart and soul is awake feeling full of happiness.

Once a love attachment is made, it's a deep appreciation of another. An intense feeling that can grow with time. As you spend time together, you are learning and understanding about each other. Creating memories, sharing joy and sorrows. A strong bond, feelings of closeness, warmth and intimacy.

According to Wikipedia, love is characterized by three elements: intimacy, passion and commitment.
Here's 7 examples:
1. Liking includes only one of the love components - intimacy. In this case, liking is not used in a trivial sense. Intimate liking characterizes true friendships, in which a person feels a bondedness, a warmth, and a closeness with another but not intense passion or long-term commitment.

2. Infatuated love consists solely of passion and is often what is felt as "love at first sight." But without the intimacy and the commitment components of love, infatuated love may disappear suddenly.

3. Empty love consists of the commitment component without intimacy or passion. Sometimes, a stronger love deteriorates into empty love, in which the commitment remains, but the intimacy and passion have died. In cultures in which arranged marriages are common, relationships often begin as empty love.

4. Romantic love is a combination of intimacy and passion. Romantic lovers are bonded emotionally (as in liking) and physically through passionate arousal.

5. Companionate love consists of intimacy and commitment. This type of love is often found in marriages in which the passion has gone out of the relationship, but a deep affection and commitment remain.

6. Fatuous love has the passion and the commitment components but not the intimacy component. This type of love can be exemplified by a whirlwind courtship and marriage in which a commitment is motivated largely by passion, without the stabilizing influence of intimacy.

7. Consummate love is the only type of love that includes all three components--intimacy, passion and commitment. Consummate love is the most complete form of love, and it represents the ideal love relationship for which many people strive but which apparently few achieve. Maintaining a consummate love may be even harder than achieving it.

Of course we are all searching for the ultimate...to love and be loved in return

Saturday, December 1, 2007

Believe in Fairy Tales

I am a big fan of Grey's Anatomy and if you listen carefully to what the characters say, you might hear something worthwhile.

You know how when you were a little kid and you believed in fairy tales, that fantasy of what your life would be, white dress, prince charming who would carry you away to a castle on a hill. You would lie in bed at night and close your eyes and you had complete and utter faith. Santa Claus, the Tooth Fairy, Prince Charming, they were so close you could taste them, but eventually you grow up, one day you open your eyes and the fairy tale disappears. Most people turn to the things and people they can trust. But the thing is its hard to let go of that fairy tale entirely cause almost everyone has that smallest bit of hope, of faith, that one day they will open their eyes and it will come true.


At the end of the day faith is a funny thing. It turns up when you don't really expect it. Its like one day you realize that the fairy tale may be slightly different than you dreamed. The castle, well, it may not be a castle. And its not so important happy ever after, just that its happy right now. See once in a while, once in a blue moon, people will surprise you , and once in a while people may even take your breath away.

Wednesday, November 28, 2007

Hugging Not Allowed in California?

Ok, I just came across this and I'm perplexed. A middle school in California is now punishing children who hug? HUG! With all that is going on in our schools...the drugs, violence, lack of learning...they're worried about chldren hugging?

I've posted on this blog in the past about the benefits of hugging. I certainly can understand concern if there was unwelcomed touching, but to have a ruling on hugging in which children are getting suspended?

After you read this, please tell me your thoughts...

Corporate and Hostess Gift Ideas

Looking for Gourmet Gifts this Holiday season? I think I finally came up with the best idea for gifts for my associates and co-workers. I was having trouble coming up with the perfect solution.

Now that I found Delightful Deliveries, I not only found delicious gifts for my
business associates, but also for hostess gifts. When invited to a holiday party, I wanted to come up with something different this year. I didn't want to bring the usual candle or knick knack. Gift baskets that include gourmet foods, cookies and wine is a much better choice.

Delightful Deliveries also provides free shipping, so I not only save time by ordering online, I save money too.

I came across a press release that states Delightful Delivers was named one of the Hot 100 Websites by a leading Industry magazine, so I feel secure in getting great products and complete satisfaction. See Below:

DelightfulDeliveries.com Recognized as Hot 100 Retail Website

Internet Retailer Ranks Website Among Best in Nation for 2008

NEW YORK--(BUSINESS WIRE)--DelightfulDeliveries.com, the premiere Internet Gift Retailer and America’s #1 Gift Basket Website, today announced it has been named one of The Hot 100 Retail Websites for 2008 by leading industry magazine, Internet Retailer. The Hot 100 list represents the best of what retailers are doing online, highlighting innovation and setting the standards in online for what the rest of the industry should be doing.

DelightfulDeliveries.com, a privately-held company, with one of the largest and most unique selections of gourmet gifts, ranked alongside larger sites such as Dell, Nike and Amazon.com, by building its award-winning site on selection, functionality, speed and the complete customer experience. A recent re-design has improved the customer’s shopping experience to make holiday gift-giving easy and enjoyable, including rating and reviews, behavioral recommendations and free shipping offers.

“We are extremely honored to be recognized as a pacesetter in online retailing,” said Eric Lituchy, Founder and CEO of DelightfulDeliveries.com. “We pride ourselves on using the latest technology to make gift-giving fun and easy. Being named among the best in the nation validates we are succeeding in our efforts to deliver the best possible customer experience.”

In addition to making Internet Retailer’s The Hot 100 list for 2008, DelightfulDeliveries.com was recently recognized by Inc. Magazine as part of its Inc. 5000, which highlights the fastest growing private companies.
DelightfulDeliveries.com offers over 2000 unique and delicious gifts from America’s best brands to the finest boutique shops. Consumers can easily shop the site by gift or food category, occasion, type and best-seller. Corporate gift-givers can choose from hundreds of customized gourmet treats.

For additional information, and to see a complete selection of gifts available, visit www.DelightfulDeliveries.com.

About Delightful Deliveries

DelightfulDeliveries.com is an award-winning website that began in 1998 and quickly established itself as one of the premier Internet gift retailers. Its mission is to bring great products to gift-givers, while providing world-class service. The company selects its offerings from a broad variety of fine food gift products for consumers and for corporate gifts, and gathers them in one place to make the selection process quick and simple.

What do you bring the hostess when invited to a holiday party? I would like to hear your ideas...

Tuesday, November 27, 2007

Be Your Own Life Coach

I recently posted about "Thinking Outside The Lines" and how choosing a different thinking process can change the outcome of situations and/or dilemmas you may find yourself in. I wanted to share with you how easy it can be for you to be your own life coach.

You are after all, responsible for your own happiness and fulfillment and there are ways you can be successful in bringing about peace and happiness to your life.

Pick a challenge you are currently facing. By asking yourself a few simple questions you will be surprised what your inner wisdom reveals to you.

By asking yourself:

Is this good for me? Instead of making a snap decision, think...don't ask friends, make the pros and cons list. Just simply ask yourself is this good for you...physically, mentally and spiritually. Will your decision be the same today, tomorrow, next week, next month. Will you still be happy with your decision down the road?

What would your role model do? Frequently thinking what your role model would do in your situation will give you time to think and tap into your wisdom of your role model and you for that matter.

What are my values? Do you regularly act on your values?

What am I not seeing? Are you like me and occasionally wear blinders? Sometimes we don't see something because we simply don't want to see it. Step out of the box and look at the situation like you're an outsider. Things may look differently to you. I know sometimes when I am directly in a situation, I do see things differently then when I suddenly find myself out of it.

What really matters? It's not really just about right or wrong. It's about knowing what's important. Do you find yourself with a to-do list of like 10 things and start to feel overwhelmed? Do you feel disappointed in yourself when you didn't finish doing all the things on your list? What's really important? If you do what's important to you and allow the others things to wait, you will be more relaxed and feel successful

Where Should You Act or When You Should Step Back? Do you sometimes feel confused over what is yours to do and what isn't? Have you acted too soon or made a decision or judgment without knowing all the information or stepped in where your input wasn't really necessary? When asking ourselves what our part is, when we should wait and let things work out for themselves, we'll get a clear picture of what our role is.

I am learning this last question rather well. I recently spoke and acted too soon about something and luckily I caught myself before it bit me in a negative way. Thankfully the person has a heart of gold and a beautiful soul and accepted my apology after I explained why I did what I did. We all are still learning in this life, aren't we?

What would Make me happy? Have you ever made a list of all the things that would make you happy? How many did you do? Think about being happy NOW...don't concentrate on something that you know you cannot obtain immediately. Getting to be happy everyday is a wonderful feeling. If you're facing a challenge, ask yourself...what would make me happy.

Who Could You Turn to if You truly Need Help from Someone? Knowing who you can trust and turn to if you really needed help in a situation will help you manage better.

Source: Beliefnet.com

Saturday, November 24, 2007

Child Abuse in a Public Place

Ok, so I truly wanted to stay away from the stores yesterday, Black Friday. I don't know what it is about that day that makes people 'crazy', but it does. I had no choice but to go into a store and I witnessed something that made me sad and upset.

It instantly brought a memory of many, many years ago when I was a teenager. My Nana and I were in line at the grocery store. While standing there, this woman with a small child in the shopping cart started beating him in the head...hitting him over and over. While everyone around just gasped and stared, my Nana (who I miss so much) went over and tapped this woman on the shoulder.She began talking to her, which diverted her attention away from the boy. Then she began talking to the child. As the situation grew more calm and the woman was at ease, my Nana boldly asked this woman why she was hitting her child in the head. It turned out that he wanted 'candy' and the woman lost her patience. In the end, this stranger hugged my Nana and thanked her. I was never more proud of my Nana then on that day.

That memory allowed me to do the same thing yesterday. I couldn't watch as this woman was physically hurting her daughter. The innocent look on this girls face, looking up at her mother. It saddened me and to think what might go on behind closed doors. At least I diverted the woman and the little girl for a time.

Did my Nana and I do the right thing? I think so...maybe, just maybe it sparked something in these people to think twice before 'loosing it'.

Thinking a child might need or deserve a 'tap' on the hand on occasion is one thing, but to do physical harm is another story. I worked in a private day care for children aged 2-10 for 9 years. I witnessed first hand child abuse. It is gut wrenching. I attended child abuse seminars to enable me to handle and deal with situations. The memory of my Nana is what came to mind this time.

What would you do if you saw a parent loosing control and hurting a child while out in public?

Starting a conversation to divert their attention away from their action is a good start. Saying something negative may only cause the adult to get angrier and make things worse. Saying something positive or complementary about the child's eyes or clothes will change the mood.

If you saw a child alone and unattended in a shopping cart, would you take the time to stand near by until the parent returns?

Our time and small actions when seeing a child in possible danger is all it takes to help.

Friday, November 23, 2007

Receiving Special Gifts

My friend and inspiration, Zubli has presented me with two awards. I feel overwhelmed at his thoughtfullness and constant wind beneath my wings.

As Thanksgiving passes, I continue to be thankful for him and so many others that have believed in me and encouraged me through their friendship, comments and help that I have become addicted to writing on my blog and try to do my best.

I guess I should have listened to my teacher back in high school who told me that I should pursue writing and one day will enjoy it. Who would of thought that many, many years later, I would be doing just that. Writing not only one blog, but two.

Be The Blog award

Wow! This is a such a nice award. I salute Mark the initiator of this Be The Blog award badge.

According to Mark:

"This badge is for bloggers who make their blog their own, stay with it, interact with their readers, and have fun!"

That desription is very fitting for I do try to have fun while presenting some useful information and share my thoughts and ideas.

The other award Zubli presented to me is called 'Winning attitude'

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The acknowledment of a Winning Attitude makes this award the best yet. Through my lifes journey of ups and downs, I have continued to (try) and keep a positive attitude. It takes work sometimes, but it is so worth it. I have made up my mind to be happy and optimistic.

The creator of this award, Mel from Attitude, The ultimate Power states "this award is based on positive thinking and is meant for those blogs who base their existence, in part or in whole, on Positive Winning Attitudes".

I have tried to pass along my positive attitude by way of my posts here and when my readers leave comments thanking me for the inspiration, for the ways I have touched them, I can't begin to tell you how surreal that is for me. That I, ME can make a difference by sharing a positive attitude.

Mel dedicates his entire blog to the development of one's attitude. I was immediately drawn to him and his blog for that very reason. The same holds true with Zubli and his dedication to bring happiness and share his winning attitude towards helping others.
Both Mel and Zubli possess a giving nature that you don't find too often and am very grateful that I met them through blogging.

Thursday, November 22, 2007

Drive Hard/Die Hard Contest

With tomorrow being Black Friday, many people will be out shopping for holiday presents at their favorite department stores. Long lines at the check outs, crowds in the stores and traffic on the roads heading to the mall is not how I want to spend my day off.

I figure it's the best time to stay away from shopping and get my car an over due oil change at my local AAMCO. When I made my appointment they told me about this Drive Hard/Die Hard 4 contest they were having. The chance to win a free trip to Hollywood and spend a day with the stunt coordinator from Die Hard 4. If you win, the trip includes airfare for 2 plus accommodations and also includes transfer to location for stunt day.

I went to the Aamco website and was able to enter the contest.You are allowed one entry per day. The contest ends on December 1st. I would love to win this trip. Number one: I've never been to California and Hollywood is a place I have always wanted to visit. Number two: It would be free and Number three: Always having an interest in how these stunt people do what they do, seeing one up close and personal AND being a part of this movie would really be something.

Winning this contest would sure be one fantastic Christmas present to me....if you are interested, be sure to enter yourself.

Tuesday, November 20, 2007

Being Thankful

As Thanksgiving is just days away, I want to remind us that we should be thankful for the "time" we have and will spend with our loved ones...our families and friends.

This story is a great reminder how the time we give to others is so appreciated, but we may not know until sometime later. It's a great reminder that the gift of our time is so precious and valuable. I hope everyone has a wonderful Thanksgiving...

Jack's story:

It had been some time since Jack had seen the old man. College, girls, career, and life itself got in the way. In fact, Jack moved clear across the country in pursuit of his dreams. There, in the rush of his busy life, Jack had little time to think about the past and often no time to spend with his wife and son. He was working on his future, and nothing could stop him.

Over the phone, his mother told him, "Mr. Belser died last night. The funeral is Wednesday." Memories flashed through his mind like an old newsreel as he sat quietly remembering his childhood days.

"Jack, did you hear me?"

"Oh, sorry, Mom Yes, I heard you. It's been so long since I thought of him. I'm sorry, but I honestly thought he died years ago," Jack said.

"Well, he didn't forget you. Every time I saw him he'd ask how you were doing. He'd reminisce about the many days you spent over 'his side of the fence' as he put it," Mom told him.

"I loved that old house he lived in," Jack said.

"You know, Jack, after your father died, Mr. Belser stepped in to make sure you had a man's influence in your life," she said

"He's the one who taught me carpentry," he said. "I wouldn't be in this business if it weren't for him. He spent a lot of time teaching me things he thought were important...Mom, I'll be there for the funeral," Jack said.

As busy as he was, he kept his word. Jack caught the next flight to his hometown. Mr. Belser's funeral was small and uneventful. He had no children of his own, and most of his relatives had passed away.

The night before he had to return home, Jack and his Mom stopped by to see the old house next door one more time.

Standing in the doorway, Jack paused for a moment. It was like crossing over into another dimension, a leap through space and time The house was exactly as he remembered. Every step held memories. Every picture, every piece of furniture....Jack stopped suddenly.

"What's wrong, Jack?" his Mom asked.

"The box is gone," he said

"What box?" Mom asked.

"There was a small gold box that he kept locked on top of his desk. I must have asked him a thousand times what was inside. All he'd ever tell me was 'the thing I value most,'" Jack said.

It was gone. Everything about the house was exactly how Jack remembered it, except for the box. He figured someone from the Belser family had taken it.

"Now I'll never know what was so valuable to him," Jack said. "I better get some sleep. I have an early flight home, Mom."

It had been about two weeks since Mr. Belser died Returning home from work one day Jack discovered a note in his mailbox. "Signature required on a package. No one at home. Please stop by the main post office within the next three days," the note read.

Early the next day Jack retrieved the package. The small box was old and looked like it had been mailed a hundred years ago. The handwriting was difficult to read, but the return address caught his attention. "Mr. Harold Belser" it read. Jack took the box out to his car and ripped open the package. There inside was the gold box and an envelope. Jack's hands shook as he read the note inside.

"Upon my death, please forward this box and its contents to Jack Bennett. It's the thing I valued most in my life." A small key was taped to the letter. His heart racing, as tears filling his eyes, Jack carefully unlocked the box. There inside he found a beautiful gold pocket watch.

Running his fingers slowly over the finely etched casing, he unlatched the cover.. Inside he found these words engraved:

Jack, Thanks for your time! -Harold Belser."

"The thing he valued most was...my time"

Jack held the watch for a few minutes, then called his office and cleared his appointments for the next two days. "Why?" Janet, his assistant asked.

"I need some time to spend with my son," he said.

"Oh, by the way, Janet, thanks for your time!"

"Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take but by the moments that take our breath away,"

Sunday, November 18, 2007

The Teeth Saga Continues

Well, it seems the problem with the teeth is continuing. The temporary dental repair did help, but when I went to the dentist yesterday, the tooth couldn't be saved. My nerve was somewhat exposed.

With the choices I was given, I decided to have the tooth pulled. ouch! The dentist gave me the 2 needles to numb the area, but I kept feeling what he was doing. In total, I had to have 6 needles and a topical treatment.

Things were going along smoothly when I got home and once the numbness wore off, I wasn't in alot of pain. I thought....this isn't so bad...but (there's always a but) tonight I have a fever.

I needed to phone the emergency on call dentist to get an antibotic. So...this weekend is a bust.
My side of my face now is achy and down into my jaw, ear and neck...

I've been catching up on sleep and all the movies on tv. I've slept so much today and now I'm awake, so I wanted to catch up here at a Circle of Women...

So this is where I remind you all to take care of your teeth. Visit your dentist regularly. Brush twice a day and floss. Taking care of your teeth will prevent plaque buildup, which is bacteria. This can lead into gingivitis and then periodontitis.

Many heart-attack patients also have gingivitis. A peer-reviewed scientific study found a direct correlation between the amount of plaque on the teeth and the amount of plaque in the arteries. Healthy teeth mean a healthy heart.

If the dentist tells you to come back to get any cavities filled. DO IT. If you don't, it will lead to other problems.

Saturday, November 17, 2007

Read The Latest News

Want your news in one spot? Instead of going to various websites, RSS readers or even the newspaper, this site provides it all.

This unique site: Read Latest News,provides you with minute by minute updates on what is happening locally and around the world. You can select your language of choice and the coverage extends to business, politics, sports, international, Hollywood, real estate, stocks, weather, lottery, the classifieds, travel...the list goes on and on.

What I especially liked was a section for woman, called the Women's Zone.With topics on women's rights, fashion and beauty.

I believe this new site will be replacing a lot of newspaper subscriptions. You won't have to wait for your paper to arrive. Whether you like reading the news before work, during work or in the evening, just bookmark this site and get the latest news when you want it.

Thursday, November 15, 2007

Do You Judge a Book by it's Cover?

How many of us judge a book by it's cover? I'm speaking about people here. First impressions are important, but to think you truly know someone in the first 5 to 10 seconds just can't be done.

Within seconds of meeting someone you are being judged. It's human nature I suppose. But, this is a double standard...have there been times you judged someone and thought you got it right, but then later found you were wrong ~ whether it was positive or negative...? I think we are all guilty of judging someone by they way they look, dress, talk. If they have tattoos, long hair, ride a bike...the list can go on and on....but sometimes, just sometimes we can be wrong.

In all walks of life, in all religions and in all races, we have good seeds, bad seeds and some in the middle. We have the same needs and wants. We all bleed, cry, laugh, want to find love and be loved, need air to breathe.

This is in Memory of Natalie who died when someone ran her and her boyfriend off the road and for all my friends who have long hair, short hair and no hair who happen to ride (including me)

I saw you ,,,but you didn't see me

I saw you, hug your purse closer to you in the grocery
store line.But, you didn't see me, put an extra $10.00 in the
collection plate last Sunday.
I saw you, pull your child closer when we passed each other on the sidewalk. But, you didn't see me, playing Santa at the local mall.
I saw you, change your mind about going into the restaurant. But, you didn't see me, attending a meeting to raise more money for the hurricane relief.
I saw you, roll up your window and shake your head when I rode by. But, you didn't see me, riding behind you when you flicked your igarette butt out the car window.
I saw you, frown at me when I smiled at your children.But, you didn't see me, when I took time off from work to run toys to the homeless.
I saw you, stare at my long hair. But, you didn't see me, and my friends cut ten inches off for Locks of Love.
I saw you, roll your eyes at our leather jackets and gloves. But,you didn't see me, and my brothers donate our old ones to those that had none.
I saw you, look in fright at my tattoos. But, you didn't see me,cry as my children were born and have their name written over and in my heart.
I saw you, change lanes while rushing off to go somewhere. But,you didn't
see me, going home to be with my family.
I saw you, complain about how loud and noisy our bikes can be. But, you didn't see me, when you were changing the CD and drifted into my lane.
I saw you, yelling at your kids in the car. But, you didn't see me, pat
my child's hands, knowing he was safe behind me.
I saw you, reading the newspaper or map as you drove down the road. But, you
didn't see me, squeeze my wife's leg when she told me to take the
next turn.
I saw you, race down the road in the rain. But, you
didn't see me, get soaked to the skin so my son could have the car
to go on his date.
I saw you, run the yellow light just to save a few minutes of time. But, you didn't see me, trying to turn right.
I saw you, cut me off because you needed to be in the lane
I was in.But, you didn't see me, leave the road.
I saw you, waiting impatiently for my friends to pass.But, you didn't see
me. I wasn't there.
I saw you, go home to your family.But, you
didn't see me. Because, I died that day you cut me off. I was
just a biker. A person with friends and a family.
But, you didn't see me.
I hope you never loose someone that rides.
. . . . RIDE TO LIVE

Sunday, November 11, 2007

Are you a Fan of Stephen King?

Three of my favorites are:

Shawshank Redemption... the tale of unjust imprisonment and the clever escape. I must have watched this movie at least 10 times.

The Green Mile..The story about the lives of guards on death row leading up to the execution of a wrongly accused man who has the power of faith healing.

(Did you even know that he wrote these?)

Carrie...a misfit high school girl having telekinetic powers. Her classmates made her the butt of the jokes, her mom was overpowering, but all she wanted to do was fit in. As she tried not being the odd one , her classmates made that impossible for her and played terrible jokes on her. Until one day, at her senior prom, she turned her power into horror and destruction.

Reading or watching Stephen King's movies never leave you unsatisfied. He accomplishes keeping you glued by including action, intrigue, adventure, and suspense!

If you are a fan, you must know that his new movie The Mist by Stephen King will be released on November 21st.

A brief synopsis:
A man and his young son along with a group of terrified townspeople are trapped in a grocery store by a strange mist. Things are lurking in the mist...deadly, horrifying. Creatures not of this world. Survival in the store depend on everyone pulling together. But does human nature make that possible? The man starts to wonder what terrifies him more: the monsters in the mist or the people in the store. The people that have been his friends and neighbors. Civilization is stripped away, masks are discarded and the horror is revealed.

Hmmmm...this one sounds like another winner. Watch the movie trailer

What's your favorite Stephen King book or movie?

Click To Give

There are many appeals over the Internet that claim you can help an organization by donating 'clicks' . Then it turns out they are just hoaxes.

Well, according to snopes.com and craig's list there are a few that are worthy and are not hoaxes.These clicks are no cost to you.

CharityUSA.com gives a percentage and in some cases 100% of the total ad revenue collected towards animal shelters and other organizations : The Rainforest, Breast Cancer and a Child Health Site.

See below the email I received. If you always wanted to get involved in a cause, but didn't know how to start, think about clicking...a little adds up and these are worthy causes. If you want to make sure this is on the up and up, check the below url's.

Craig's List:


Help Feed the Animals for Free

Hi, all you animal lovers. This seems pretty simple. Please tell ten friends to tell ten today! The Animal Rescue Site is having trouble getting enough people to click on it daily to meet their quota of getting free food donated every day to abused and neglected animals.It takes less than a minute to go to their site and click on "feed an animal in need" for free. This doesn't cost you a thing. Their corporate sponsors/advertisers use the number of daily visits to donate food to abandoned/neglected animals in exchange for advertising. Here's the web site! There is also a few links to fight Cancer, feed people and the rainforest site. Pass it along to people you know.


Saturday, November 10, 2007

Saved From Embarrassment

Ok, I think I cursed myself writing about my teeth the other day. haha,....things were going along much better with the bout of sensitive teeth, but today I have a different problem.

I was doing the dreaded house cleaning and stopped to eat lunch. While chewing, I felt a sensation of my tooth breaking...something wasn't right. Then I felt something odd...

When I looked in the mirror, I saw that my cap pulled off. Dear Lord, not today! I am going into New York City tonight to a club to see a band that I like. I'll be so embarrassed going on a date with a missing tooth.
Now what?...Like I always do, I call my Mom for her help. She's always having problems with her teeth,so I figured she'd know what to do.

She says I need temporary dental repair. She said she has used a product when she lost a filling and it provided temporary relief of pain and discomfort and she believes it works on caps.

Ok, so I go to the store and find Dentemp OS. Reading the package it says that I would just have to remove it from its plastic vial and it's ready to use. No mess and no mixing. There's also several applications in each vial. It states it
replaces lost fillings and may be used to temporarily cement loose crowns.
I can eat again within 30 minutes of setting. This product was also tested and fully complies with FDA Regulations for Oral Care, so I feel safe in using it.

I have to say that in about an hour, from start to finish, I have a temporary dental repair that will work until I call the dentist on Monday. I am so glad that Mom knows best. This saved me from not only the discomfort, but the embarrassment I would have felt later on.

Friday, November 9, 2007

Depression: What Can You Do?

Many in our blog community are aware of a friend who is suffering and offering their supportive messages. I find it heartwarming to see people rally around someone we are concerned about. I'll say it again...Internet friends become very special to us and the bonds we form are REAL.

I wanted to go a step further besides my private message to my friend, by offering this post to someone who may be suffering in silence or think they may be depressed and how we can help.

Understanding Depression:
First let me say that depression is not something you can 'snap' out of. Depression is caused by an imbalance of brain chemicals. Like any serious medical condition, it needs to be treated. To fight depression, you need to understand it.

To many, depression can feel like:
* constant feelings of sadness, irritability, or tension
* decreased interest or pleasure in usual activities or hobbies
* loss of energy, feeling tired despite lack of activity
* a change in appetite, with significant weight loss or weight gain
* a change in sleeping patterns, such as difficulty sleeping, early morning awakening, or sleeping too much
* restlessness or feeling slowed down
* decreased ability to make decisions or concentrate
* feelings of worthlessness, hopelessness, or guilt
* thoughts of suicide or death

Symptoms vary, but if you feel down for more than two weeks and interfering with daily life, then you may be clinically depressed.

If you are in an immediate serious crisis, please contact your doctor or go to your local hospital or emergency room.

Depression is not just a state of mind. It is related to physical changes in the brain and connected to an imbalance of a type of chemical that carries signals in your brain and nerves.

Depression can have many causes. Family history, trauma or stress, pessimistic personality, physical conditions, or other disorders.

What you can do if you are suffering:
1) See your doctor for treatment
2) Set realistic goals: you may feel overwhelmed by everything you should do, so focus on small goals to ease yourself back into your routine. Don't be too hard on yourself
3) Do what you enjoy
4) Hold off on major decisions
5) Avoid alcohol
6) Exercise
7) Get support

When you learn someone you care about is suffering from depression, what can you do?
1) Learn about depression, so you have a better idea what that person may be experiencing.
2) Do what you can to have that person seek medical care. Bring them to their doctor if needed
3) Be supportive and patient
4) Without being overly pushy, try getting that person to do what they enjoy. See friends, go to a movie, take a walk
5) People who feel depressed often resist attempts to be helped. Don't give up
6) If a person is talking of harming themselves or having thoughts of suicide, do not ignore it.

Source: www.depression.com

What Ethics Should be used When Reporting a Story?

While having our usual casual conversation around the water cooler at work, the subject turned to an explicit newspaper article regarding a child abuse case that ended in the death of a 3 year old child. This reporter thought it was necessary to give graphic details. It was heart wrenching.

I wonder if this reporter thought of the child’s family or friends reading this article. They had to relive the painful death of this child or maybe become aware of certain facts they didn't know.

This unfortunate death happened over 3 years ago and was brought back to life when this reporter was giving her review of the court session. I did read this article and it disturbed me the entire day and well into the night.

I understand that a reporter must not show personal feelings and report the facts, but...must it include such horrifying facts of what the child abuser did to this child? and include details on how this child suffered?

A reporter writes an article for public interest, I understand, but should they write everything that they have learned while investigating the facts for the story?

Should some compassion be shown for those who may be affected adversely by news coverage. Use special sensitivity when dealing with children?

Human nature is one of curiosity...sick at times. Ever see something so gross or an accident that you didn't want to look at, but couldn't take your eyes off of it? That's what I thought about this article...I kept reading it because I couldn't believe what I was actually reading....

I guess the reporter did accomplish getting a reaction from me and I am sure from others as well about the important issue of child abuse.

Graphic descriptions, distasteful or shocking material might be considered the most important facts to convey, but maybe a warning at the beginning of this article stating explicit or disturbing material may offend some readers should have been used.

What are your thoughts on this?


Monday, November 5, 2007

Got Milk?

"Try to imagine your soul as a coconut and the rewards of life as the milk inside it. The more skilled you are at cracking the shell, the more milk you'll retain for greater nourishment. Your life provides you with the lessons you'll need to break open that husk~the more you live your life in a spiritual manner, the better you become at cracking open your own self and savoring life's rewards" ~ Mary Jo McCabe

Have you ever thought about finding your true self? We spend so much time trying to hide our shortcomings or imperfections, we fail to see our true self. We have a spiritual self and a physical self.. The spiritual self , your soul, is hidden from the naked eye. It knows what's best for you and knows how to help you receive from life what you really need. I believe we all can communicate with our soul or that inner voice. How many times have you caught yourself hearing that inner voice? How many times have we listened?

Your physical self is what others see and is open to the outside world, including your (negative)emotions. Mary Jo McCabe considers this to be the outer shell of a coconut, which protects the milk and nourishment in the center.

Have you ever felt off kilter? Balancing between the spiritual and physical can be a challenge. Life is about creating a balance. Getting in sync so you can experience the fullness of your life.

Is there an area in your life causing you distress? Do you overspend, over eat, over react, over work? Make it a point to change this one area of concern for just one week and notice the improvement that happens. If you can do it for one week, you can do it for one month and then for one year. It'll become a positive pattern leading to a positive change in your life. It's all about small successes and realizing you have the ability to change how you treat yourself inside and out.. you'll gain confidence along the way...

Life can be an uphill battle at times with struggles to overcome, but with dedication, persistence and hard work, you can obtain success in what you want in life. You will be rewarded with the milk of life....

Saturday, November 3, 2007

Biotene Bringing Back My Smile

Who likes going to the dentist? not me...Actually I've had a fear of the dentist since I was young, but you have to do, what you have to do...

In the past, I have had to discuss with my dentist how my teeth felt sensitive. I had noticed when drinking hot or cold drinks, I felt a twinge of pain. The dentist explained sensitivity like this: Enamel protects the crowns of the teeth. There's a layer of cementum that protects the tooth root under the gum line and underneath that is dentin. The dentin contains small hollow tubes and canals. When the dentin loses its protective covering, those tubes is what gets sensitive to hot, cold or even sticky foods while chewing. You might even feel the twinge of pain when breathing through your mouth.

Sensitive teeth can be treated and I was advised to use a sensitive toothpaste which contains a compound that will help block the sensation from the tooth surface to the nerve.

Since this problem is reoccurring, I was given a sample of Biotene to use. This new toothpaste does not just mask the problem, but actually promotes healing. I've been using the toothpaste for the last couple days and I already feel the difference. I no longer see 'pink' in the sink and the sensitivity is lessening. I also noticed immediately that unlike regular toothpaste, it doesn't foam. At first I wasn't sure if I liked this or not, but after a couple times brushing, I actually do like less foam. I am not loosing benefits of cavity protection, this toothpaste is providing that along with preventing dry mouth.

If I had had this toothpaste when I first noticed the sensitivity, I may not be having this problem again.

Before you think you may need special treatment for sensitive teeth, try using this toothpaste. It may save you from needing any additional procedures.

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