Actions Do Speak Louder Than Words

It's funny how things can change in an instant.
I was forced to open my eyes to a situation and accept it, even though it hurts like hell.

Acceptance...sometimes can be a hard thing for someone to do. I believe I did not want to accept what someone was telling me because at the same time, I was being told something else. I was also refusing to accept because I wanted something different. I suddenly realized that the old saying...Actions speak louder than words, came into play.

Sometimes acceptance is looked upon as weak or passive. Accepting a situation may make you feel like you condone a situation, but it is quite the opposite. Accepting a situation can allow you to have a lighter heart, allow you to move forward. Acceptance can allow you to see the truth.

Even if your aceptance involves someone that may have hurt you. In reality, they are hurting themselves. With acceptance comes forgiveness. When you forgive someone that may have hurt you, you free up your awareness. You become free of others. You take back your power from them. If you do not forgive, you hold on to the memory and carry the baggage.

Why can't you forgive? Ego comes into play. Our ego doesn't like to be hurt or humiliated, so you may hold onto the memory. Forgiveness shifts the memory from the past to the present and makes it easier to deal with.

I guess all our experiences helps our growth because we have to find the lessons. If we can find the lesson, we can let go of the experience or hurt.

If we can see those you may have caused hurt through the eyes of truth, we can understand how much of the hurt came from our own misconception about who they really are or what they would or could do for you.

I'm still hurting, so I guess I haven't found my lesson in this situation yet. But, I am working on it....

The Gift of Forgiving

Has someone hurt your feelings? If you keep going over and over what that person did to you, you may begin to feel anxious and depressed. The stress of being hurt can actually make you ill.

Maybe we need to let go, for hanging on to unforgiveness is just keeping the situation 'alive'. Like living in the past, you can't move forward. I don't think forgiving is 'forgetting', but it will help in letting go of hurt feelings, anger or pain felt.

If we recognize it is not about them and concentrate on you, we can then see that forgiving someone is a gift for our self. Don't wait for an apology. When we forgive, we aren't saying we forgive their actions or words, but forgive the person.

It's not easy to forgive someone and it will take time. Allow yourself that time and don't be so hard on yourself. Go through the stages and give yourself the gift of forgiving.

Did you ever hurt someone? Do you remember how you felt when that person forgave you?
Maybe you will never know why they hurt you, what the motivation behind their words or actions were. If we all try to expand our thought process and learn to see the shoe on the other foot, we will consider forgiving more easily.

According to wikipedia:
Forgiveness is the mental, and/or spiritual process of ceasing to feel resentment, indignation or anger against another person for a perceived offence, difference or mistake, or ceasing to demand punishment or restitution.
The power in forgiveness is to replace what has been lost or stolen and remove the fear of being injured again, to liberate from the slavery of resentment, bitterness, hatred, malice, fear, and a consumed life of distrust